Instead, we grew up to be adults with no firm boundaries in place, making it too easy for abusive people to hurt us. And they have.
But that’s about to change. Today, I’m going to tell you how to set healthy emotional boundaries and how to defend them.
Let’s start with what’s true about you. This is your truth: You are a precious spirit of Divine Love, who deserves to be treated with love and respect. No exceptions.
Your truth defines your emotional boundaries. Unfortunately, abusers have extremely low self-esteem and enjoy violating emotional boundaries. Here’s how they do it. This is what emotional abuse looks like:
- Challenging: Someone who says “No” to or argues with everything you say.
- Interrupting: Someone who constantly interrupts everything you say by changing the subject.
- Gaslighting: Someone who twists reality. The abuser denies his/her actions, hurtful words, promises, etc. The goal is to make you doubt your sanity.
- Belittling: Someone who criticizes or makes fun of everything about you (how you look, dress, talk, your decisions, your intelligence, etc.).
The emotional abusers in your life may be family, friends, coworkers, or your spouse. Don’t allow these people to violate your emotional boundaries. Remember, your truth defines your boundaries. Your boundaries say you deserve to be treated with love and respect. No exceptions.
Once you set emotional boundaries, you’ll have to defend them. That’s a must. To do this, use the abuser’s favorite word: No. When an emotional boundary is crossed, calmly say: “No, I don’t agree with that” or “No, that’s not true about me” or “No, that’s not what I think.”
Then walk away. Cut all emotional abusers out of your life. You don’t need them. If some are family members, limit your time with them.
Be patient with yourself. It can take up to six months to feel comfortable defending your emotional boundaries. But practice makes perfect. And it will get easier. I promise!
Do you need to set emotional boundaries in your life, but you don’t know where to start? If so, don’t worry. I can help you with that. Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me. My calendar is filling up fast, so don’t wait. Let me help you heal your life. Reserve your spot NOW!
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