To do that, we made up stories about our families and ourselves. It’s how we survive. We push away the reality that someone we love and trust would hurt us again and again in this horrible, painful way.
One of the stories we create is that the abuse is our fault. We must be bad kids, or we must have done something wrong to merit this kind of horrendous “punishment.” So we try harder to do better. Perfectionism becomes our goal. But that doesn’t work either. The abuse continues no matter what.
When you deny reality, you deny yourself. Unfortunately, this is a toxic legacy we carry from our traumatized childhood into adulthood. It warps our core beliefs about life, the world, and everyone around us. When we deny ourselves, we disconnect from our hearts and our needs. We deny who we truly are.
Yet it feels like such a risk to face reality. And it is. When we allow the truth about our past to unfold it changes everything. It changes what we’ve always believed about ourselves, our personal relationships, and the future.
But this is a risk we must take. No matter how much you’d like to resist, you must step outside your comfort zone. I know how that feels. It’s like someone pulled the rug out from under you. Yet you have to do it. It’s the only way to end the pain, fear, anxiety, and frustration that poison your life.
So keep moving forward. Trust the process. You are an amazing human being, and you have been gifted with the tools and talent to do this. You have!
One day you’ll look in the mirror, and you’ll realize you truly love who you’ve become. But to do that, you need to stop denying yourself. You need to ask yourself this question: “Who am I?” The answer is the place where your healing journey begins.
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