Blog About Healing and Recovery after Child Sexual Abuse

Why You Will Love TRE®!

1/31/2017

I had a tremendous amount of response from many of you to my blog post last week about TRE® (Tension, Stress & Trauma Release Exercise). So I’ve decided to continue with that theme this week!

There are lots of benefits to TRE®, but the main reason I love it is because it helped me realize the complex relationship between my muscles, brain, and nervous system. These three kept me safe as a child, and they have continued to protect me during the dark, messy parts of my healing journey.

TRE® is the practice of self-regulation. It guides me deeper and deeper into my body that has held tension, trapped toxic beliefs and emotions for decades. It also protects me from overwhelm, which is when I’m most likely to experience the symptoms of PTSD.

TRE® has given me the strength to welcome these feelings of overwhelm, anxiety, frustration, sadness, grief, and depression. I no longer see them as a threat. They appear to let me know something inside me needs to be addressed. When that happens, TRE® provides a pathway for me to manage and process these overwhelming emotions.

TRE® has taught me to trust my body and trust the healing process. I can even listen to music and distract my mind, while TRE® helps my body release tension and stress naturally. No need to supervise the process. No need to control it. Wow, right?

As a Certified TRE® Provider, I teach my clients this incredible trauma-releasing tool. If you’d like to communicate your feelings more effectively, to understand why certain situations are upsetting, and to release deep tension patterns in your muscles that are sabotaging your healing, consider TRE®.

Chronic tension and toxic beliefs trapped in the body are the cause of our emotional and physical pain. TRE® gives us a way to easily find and release them. It’s no wonder I love it so much. And you will, too!

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Is TRE® a healing tool you’d like to explore? Do you have questions about TRE® or the TRE® sessions I offer? If so, send me an email at svava@educate4change.com. I’m always happy to talk about TRE®!

Are you an abuse or trauma survivor? Are you struggling with depression or anxiety, and you can’t seem to move forward? Don’t worry. I can help! Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100). Let me help you heal your life. Reserve your spot NOW!

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Accelerate Your Healing With TRE®!

1/23/2017

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We all know your mind will eventually forget some of the details of the abuse or trauma you’ve survived. But your body never forgets.

Like I’ve mentioned in other blog posts, trapped trauma must be released. It’s nothing more than emotional pain. If allowed to fester in the body for weeks, years, or decades it will eventually manifest as physical pain in the form of illness, allergies, chronic pain, etc.

TRE® (Trauma Release Exercises) created a major shift in my healing from trauma, and the results were truly surprising. I knew I could heal my body, mind, and spirit. I just didn’t know how. TRE® was the tool that gave me access to the trauma buried so deep inside me I couldn’t reach it any other way.

I’ve been using TRE® on a regular basis for two years now. The experience has been both humbling and powerful. It has strengthened my faith in the fact that abuse and trauma survivors like you and I can overcome. Yes, we can heal and restore!

As many of you know, I was so impressed with the results from TRE® that I decided to become a Certified TRE® Provider. I’ve recently completed my TRE® certification. It was a long and arduous training process, but I did it. Yay!

Now I’m looking forward to helping my coaching clients use TRE® as a self-care tool. If you’re interested in experiencing the amazing healing benefits of TRE®, send me an email at svava@educate4change.com. Tell me about the trauma or abuse you survived and describe your trauma symptoms. I am happy to guide you to an appropriate provider.

After using TRE® for over two years, I believe it’s one of the best investments you’ll ever make in your healing. Just 3 or 4 sessions with a Certified TRE® Provider are all you’ll need. Then you can use this valuable self-care tool to rid your body of tension, stress or trapped trauma.

Best of all, TRE® will help you keep your mind, body, and soul healthy for the rest of your life. The more you use it the better it works. Wow. How cool is that?!
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Are you an abuse or trauma survivor? Are you struggling with depression or anxiety, and you can’t seem to move forward? Don’t worry. I can help! Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100). Let me help you heal your life. Reserve your spot NOW!

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What is “Soft Trauma”?

1/15/2017

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There are two kinds of trauma. Both are devastating to your mind, body, and soul.

The trauma everyone is familiar with is “hard trauma.” That would be a natural disaster, war, or personal injury, like a car accident. This type of trauma is almost always physical.

“Soft trauma” is prolonged physiological or emotional abuse. All forms of abuse fall into this category (child abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, narcissistic relationships, domestic abuse, etc.).

The physical evidence of soft trauma is usually delayed. It can take weeks, months, or years to manifest in physical form. However, the effect of soft trauma on the body is just as devastating as hard trauma. It simply appears in a different form, like chronic pain, mental illness, allergies, cancer, and a host of serious or life-threatening illnesses.

Soft trauma is what you and I struggle with every day. To recover from soft trauma, you must restore peace to your mind, body, soul, and spirit. That’s why I talk so much about self-care, self-love, and self-compassion. Trauma and abuse devastate every part of you. Learning how to love and care for yourself through a daily self-care regime is how you begin the healing process.

We all know firsthand the power of soft trauma. It overwhelms you with its constant slam-dunk impact. You feel hopeless. You feel stuck. You think you have no options. Because you feel totally and completely powerless, you disconnect from your body and heart to survive it.

Healing from trauma forces you to connect again and feel all these emotions on a level that’s excruciatingly painful at times. Yes, healing can get very dark and messy.

But it was in this painful darkness where I found myself again. And you will, too. In the darkness you find your power, your strengths, and your authentic self. As you move through the darkness you’ll eventually find your heart, and that’s when you begin to fall in love with yourself.

Trauma may have knocked you down. But it can’t keep you down once you start your healing journey. Continue moving forward. The darkness won’t last forever. And the Light is more glorious than you could have ever imagined. You’re closer to it than you think!

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How to Make Peace with Your Emotions

1/8/2017

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You can’t heal from abuse or trauma without learning how to feel your emotions. For someone who has never experienced abuse, what I just said must sound weird. Doesn’t everyone know how to feel their feelings? No, they don’t. Not us.

This is especially true for child abuse survivors. We grew up unprotected, watching violence, listening to violence, and experiencing violence. The only way to survive this type of toxic environment was to shut down any awareness of the raging emotions inside us. It wasn’t safe to express our emotions. It wasn’t safe to talk about our emotions. It wasn’t safe.

When I began my healing journey, I had no idea how deeply I had suppressed all my emotions. I was completely unaware of the repressed sadness, grief, outrage, and anger festering inside me.

As my awareness grew, I could see how shame had crippled almost every area of my life. For example, I’ll never forget the time I was arguing with my husband. At one point I was no longer making sense. All I cared about was being right. Suddenly, I realized this was shame rearing its ugly head. I stopped arguing and told my husband he was right. And he was.

Practice feeling your emotions by becoming aware of your body. That’s the best place to start.

Scan your body. Do you feel discomfort, tightness, or stress anywhere? Where is it in your body? Focus on the emotion in that area until you can name it. Then feel it.

Is this emotion a response to something that just happened? Or is it a response to a situation from the past? Emotions from the past are stored as trapped energy in the body. They need to be acknowledged and released by gently allowing them to move through you. Let them go.

Make peace with your emotions. Practice finding, feeling, and releasing them in a healthy way. Soon you’ll discover a wonderful truth: your emotions are your friends.
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Is it difficult for you to feel all of your emotions? Is the thought of doing this just too overwhelming to consider? If so, I can help! Follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100). Let me help you heal your life.

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What’s the Big Surprise on the Healing Journey?

1/2/2017

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Last week’s blog post about “oneness” touched many of you, so I wanted to continue this week by exploring another aspect of that theme.

As you practice oneness, you begin to realize we’re connected not only to each other but also to God (Divine Love). Suddenly, it makes perfect sense that we’re here to learn about love and to experience love. However, you can only experience love when you’re connected. Why? Because love is an active process: you’re either giving love or receiving love or both.

Child abuse disconnects you from love. You were hurt by those who claimed to love you. You were hurt by those you loved. Because love hurt, we distanced ourselves from love to survive the abuse.

The healing journey is all about learning how to reconnect with love. We do that by reconnecting with ourselves, others, and God.

But that’s easier said than done, isn’t it? Disconnecting from love makes you feel unlovable, and this toxic thought cripples your adult relationships. For example, I was married for 12 years before I could trust my husband enough to believe he wasn’t going to leave me. Sad, but true.

Before I could learn how to trust and connect with him in a loving way, I had to trust and connect with myself. The only way to do that was to connect with my inner child.

Yikes! Not an easy task for me. I didn’t like her. I didn’t know what to do with her. How was I supposed to love this needy, angry, hurt child? I was clueless.

But I kept working on it, practicing self-love and self-compassion. Slowly, I began to accept the parts of myself I felt were unlovable. This helped me connect with other people. I could see we’re all struggling in one way or another. I’d never realized that before. I thought I was the only one. Now I know I’m not.

Safe relationships in support groups or with loved ones help us practice these new oneness skills. They teach us to take responsibility for ourselves in our relationships.

And that’s one of the big surprises on the healing journey. Think about it. When we were children, abusive relationships hurt us. As adults, safe relationships heal us. Wow. Who knew, right? Surprise!

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