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What Do You Believe, and Does It Serve You?

7/31/2017

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Have you noticed my recent blog posts have been building on a certain theme?  Each one is written to take you deeper and deeper into your healing.  My intent is to help you tackle your core issues and accelerate your healing.  Sounds good, doesn’t it?  I think so!  

Today, let’s talk about what we believe.  It’s more important than you might think.  

Unfortunately, abused children are told many lies.  Children are sponges, and they’re born into this world, trusting their parents and caretakers.  It’s only natural for them to absorb and believe everything they’re taught.  Even if what they’re taught isn’t true.   

Every single thing we do is a direct response to what we believe.  Everything we say and think is also based on these core beliefs.  So my question to you is what do you believe?

Unless you’re consciously choosing healthy beliefs, creating new habits based on those beliefs, and changing your behavior to match those beliefs, you’re living your life on “autopilot.”  Autopilot for a survivor of child abuse means you’ll continue to live according to the toxic lies and beliefs you were taught by your abuser.  Ouch!

To change this toxic lifestyle pattern, I encourage you to question all your beliefs.  Ask yourself: where did this belief come from?  Is it authentic to who I am?  Does it serve me?  Does it serve others?

If you’re not sure what you believe, start here.  I’ve taken six toxic core beliefs, and I’ve changed them into healthy core beliefs.  You can do the same.    

  • Change I am unworthy (the lie) into I am worthy (the truth).
  • Change I have no value (the lie) into I am valuable (the truth).
  • Change I’m not enough (the lie) into I am enough (the truth).
  • Change I am a burden (the lie) into I am a gift (the truth).
  • Change I am weak (the lie) into I am strong (the truth).
  • Change I am not lovable (the lie) into I am loved by God (the truth).

Cultivate the habit of questioning every old and new belief you hold.  If a belief doesn’t serve your authentic self, it’s toxic.  Dump it or change it into a healthy belief.  

That’s how you live day by day as your authentic self!
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Is your brain too foggy from trauma to discover your core toxic beliefs?  Don’t worry.  I can help!  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100 per hour).  Let me help you heal your life.  Reserve your spot TODAY!


Have you read my bestselling book, “Journey to the Heart”?  If you’re ready to heal from the effects of abuse or trauma (depression, anxiety, PTSD, allergies, chronic pain, etc.), this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback (link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!

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How Do We Develop Courage?

7/23/2017

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If you’ve been following my blog for a while, you may remember I wrote a blog post a few weeks ago about the 7 steps most child abuse survivors must take in order to heal.  

I received a wonderful response to it from several of you.  Thanks!  If you haven’t had a chance to read it yet, here’s the link:
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In this blog post, I’d like to discuss the second of these 7 steps: Develop Courage.  As you know, we don’t start out on our healing journey feeling courageous.  In the beginning, courage is the last thing we feel.  We’re uncertain of the path, the process, and the outcome.  
That’s a completely normal response.  Fortunately, your willingness to heal will eventually develop into courage with each healthy risk you take on your journey.

The reason we don’t feel courageous is because change is hard for survivors of child abuse.  Thankfully, we’re not defenseless kids anymore.  We’re adults.  Now we’re the ones with all the power.  We can make the choice to heal.  We can be willing to change.  We can take small steps forward every day on our healing journey.  We can use purposeful intent to work each of these 7 steps.  

Yes, we’ll probably have to remind ourselves every day of our commitment to heal.  I know I did!  But that daily reminder is what keeps us going.

Today, I want you to realize you’re already a courageous person.  You may not feel that way, I know.  But it takes tremendous courage to begin your healing journey.  And you did that.  

Now you need to wake up every morning, willing to do what it takes that day to heal.  Do this every morning, and one day you’ll blossom into a capable, courageous, loving human being.

When it happens, that will be a very special day.  It’ll be the day you rediscover your authentic self.  How exciting!
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Are you having trouble with this second step?  Is feeling courageous a stumbling block for you?  If so, I can help!  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100 per hour).  Let me help you heal your life.  Reserve your spot TODAY!

Have you read my bestselling book, “Journey to the Heart”?  If you’re ready to heal from the effects of abuse or trauma (depression, anxiety, PTSD, allergies, chronic pain, etc.), this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback 
(link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!


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WHY Do We Do What We Do?

7/17/2017

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This is such an important question.  In fact, it’s an integral part of your healing journey.  As survivors of child abuse and trauma, we must always ask “Why?”  

  • Why did I do that?  
  • Why did I say that?
  • Why did I think that?
  • Why am I feeling this particular emotion right now?  
  • Why is feeling this way important to me?

I help my clients answer these questions by teaching them how to feel their emotions and how to fall in love with themselves.  Nothing gives me more joy or satisfaction than showing them how to achieve this goal as quickly as possible.  The tools I give them are the same ones I use when faced with a challenge.  These are invaluable, timeless tools that will serve them well for the rest of their lives.

I often cry tears of happiness when my clients reach this point.  For example, most are awestruck at their ability to “feel” again.  After being numb for so long, they can finally feel good emotions.  They never thought they’d be able to do that again.  They thought they were too broken.  They weren’t.  

And neither are you.

I can totally relate to this.  When I began to feel again, it was a shocking moment for me.  I had no idea I could feel so much joy.  I never imagined I could feel so happy.  It was an overwhelming, awe-inspiring experience.  I thought I was incapable of feeling good emotions.  I wasn’t.

So keep asking yourself “Why?”  My relentless pursuit of the answer to this question in every area of my life is what led to my healing.  It took me to places deep inside me, dark places that needed to be healed.

It’ll be the same for you.  Pray about it.  Get God involved.  Question everything you think, feel, say, and do.  The path from Survivor to Thriver begins with one simple word: “Why?”
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Would you like to know how to feel your good emotions again?  Would you like to learn how to fall in love with yourself?  If so, I can help!  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100 per hour).  Let me help you heal your life.  Reserve your spot TODAY!

​Have you read my bestselling book, “Journey to the Heart”?  If you’re ready to heal from the effects of abuse or trauma (depression, anxiety, PTSD, allergies, chronic pain, etc.), this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback (link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!


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Why Can’t I Heal?

7/10/2017

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This is a question I asked myself for a long time.  So many people could diagnose me.  So many people could tell me what was wrong with me.  But few could actually help me heal.  

Why?  Because my healing wasn’t the task of these other people.  It was my job.  I had to take all the information I had gathered about recovering from child abuse and trauma and move that knowledge from my head to my heart.  In other words, I had to do the tough, messy work of applying it to my own life.  

Today, I’m going to make this task easier for you.  Here are the seven steps child abuse and trauma survivors need to take in order to heal.  Apply them every day.

  1. Establish Safety.  Figure out what makes you feel safe.  This is your first priority.
  2. Develop Courage.  Eventually, your willingness to heal will develop into courage, as you take more and more healthy risks.
  3. Create a Mindfulness Practice.  Connecting with your body is essential for healing.  As abused children, we learned the toxic skill of disconnection.  Mindfulness will help you reconnect.
  4. Express Your Emotions.  Learn how to identify, listen to, feel, and express your emotions in a healthy way.  All of them: the good, the bad, and the ugly!
  5. Change Your Negative Beliefs.  You created these toxic beliefs as a way to survive an abusive childhood.  But you’re an adult now.  Change your story (beliefs) to what benefits your adult life.
  6. Practice Self-Care, Self-Love, and Self-Compassion.  Put yourself first on your To-Do list.  Every day find a way to lovingly care for and celebrate yourself.
  7. Build a Support System.  You can’t do this alone.  Healing doesn’t work that way.  Surround yourself with nourishing friends who support your healing goals.

Just the act of implementing these seven steps is a major move forward on your healing journey.  Stick with it, and you’ll experience a positive shift sooner than you think.  Why?  Because these steps are more than a decision.  They’re a lifestyle change.  

And that’s how you heal.  Finally!

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If you’re having trouble with any of these steps, I can help!  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100 per hour).  Let me help you heal your life.  Reserve your spot TODAY!

Have you read my bestselling book, “Journey to the Heart”?  If you’re ready to heal from the effects of abuse or trauma (depression, anxiety, PTSD, allergies, chronic pain, etc.), this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback (link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!

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What Does Mindfulness Really Mean?

7/3/2017

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Mindfulness is about living in the moment and being present for the NOW.  We all know that.  But what you might not realize is “being present” doesn’t mean being present in your head.  Mindfulness really means being present in your body.


A big part of the healing journey is learning how to connect with your body again.  Self-compassion is a good example.  It’s the practice of becoming aware of what’s going on in your body, so you can experience what it feels like to be loving and kind to yourself.


Mindfulness is not a head thing.  You feel what’s happening in the present moment in your body and in your heart.  Not in your head.


Here’s what I mean.  You feel worries about the future and bad memories from the past in your body first.  Being connected to your body through mindfulness instantly alerts you that this is happening.  That gives you the opportunity to remind yourself the past is over, and no one has any control over the future.  Through mindfulness you can let go of these negative emotions and worries rather than repress them.


Your body’s awareness is actually faster than your mind.  For example, you feel the energy shift in a room, situation, or conversation in your body first.  Then your mind becomes aware of it.  This is also true of good and bad thoughts, memories, and every emotion.  


When you reconnect with your body through mindfulness, you’re no longer at the mercy of every stray thought, memory, or emotion.  You’ll know the instant your body senses something, which gives you the opportunity to choose what you want to think and feel at that moment.  


Reconnecting to your body through mindfulness expands every area of your awareness.  Suddenly, you can see how your life experiences made you the awesome, compassionate person that you are today.  You can see how all of this, the good and the bad, brought you to this present moment in time.  


When you see the “big picture” through the peace and calm of mindfulness, you can’t help feeling grateful for the gift you’ve become.  And that’s exactly what you are.  A precious gift!

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Are you having trouble reconnecting to your body through mindfulness?  Is the practice of mindfulness difficult for you?  If so, I can help!  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100 per hour).  Let me help you heal your life.  Reserve your spot TODAY!


Have you read my bestselling book, “Journey to the Heart”?  If you’re ready to heal from the effects of abuse or trauma (depression, anxiety, PTSD, allergies, chronic pain, etc.), this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback (link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!


Are you on my email list?  If you’d like to receive my monthly newsletter and an email with a link to my weekly blog post, click here: http://www.educate4change.com/

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