Why are we like that?
We fear and avoid these emotions, because we never had a positive role model to teach us how to express sadness, grief, overwhelm, anger, pain, and anxiety in a healthy way. Instead, we got hurt when the adults in our life felt these challenging emotions.
However, developing the ability to feel, accept, trust, and appreciate all your emotions (the good, the bad, and the ugly) is a vital step on the healing journey. It’s impossible to heal if you skip it.
So where do you start?
Feeling begins with awareness. Sounds easy, doesn’t it? Not for us. The human brain is programmed to avoid pain at all costs. Child abuse taught us to equate pain with emotion, especially uncomfortable emotions. Because of that, we usually need support to help us identify those risky emotions. We simply can’t “see” them in ourselves.
Willingness unlocks the door to awareness. If you’re willing, answer these questions the next time you feel uncomfortable. They’ll help you identify the emotion you’re feeling.
- Where in my body am I feeling discomfort?
- What is this feeling trying to tell me?
- Can I name it?
- Am I willing to take responsibility for it?
- Was it triggered by something in the present?
- Was it triggered by a memory from the past?
- Is it true or false?
- If it’s true, what can I learn from it?
- If it’s false, what can I learn from it?
- How can I express and release this emotion in a positive, healthy way?
The process of feeling, accepting, trusting, and appreciating your emotions helps you connect to your own wants and needs in a way you’ve never experienced before. Best of all, it creates a sense of inner peace.
And inner peace is the primary goal of the healing journey. We want to feel at peace in our bodies. We want peace of mind. Inner peace is something we’ve always craved.
Well, this is how you achieve it!
Are you afraid to feel? When you feel uncomfortable, does your brain suddenly go numb? If so, I can help! Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100 per hour). Let me help you heal your life. Reserve your spot TODAY!
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