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Healing is Not Linear

5/3/2018

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Let this truth bring you some peace today, my friends.

On your healing journey, you will have easy days, when the loving words come easily, when you look in the mirror and love what you see, when you feel the strength to silence your inner critic, when you feel powerful, loving, and calm enough to comfort your inner child and put him/her at ease.

But, as life goes, there will be bad days. There might be bad weeks. Life, that happens all around you, doesn't grow in straight lines and neither will you. But that doesn't mean you should stop moving forward, that doesn't mean you should give up.

Because it is after those hardest of days, those hardest of times, that you will hear the message you needed to, clearer and louder than ever, that you will have conquered something powerful which makes you MORE powerful than it, and you will learn each and every time, that you. are. still. here. You made it. You did it. And you can keep going.

Learn to love the ups and downs of your journey, my friends, accept the fact that it will keep surprising you. And don't feel ashamed if you are in your "down" period, if you feel like you are taking two steps back. Look around you, because everyone else is taking the same uneven, undecided, and unsure journey.

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Feeling stuck on the healing journey? Don’t worry. Just follow (this link) to book on my calendar or feel free to call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($125).  Let me help you reclaim your power and move forward again.  You go this!  Reserve your spot NOW! 

Have you read my new book, “Releasing Your Authentic Self”?  If you’re ready to do the deep, hard work of emotional healing, this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback (link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!

Are you looking for more support?  I have created a closed Facebook group for the readers of “Releasing Your Authentic Self”  If you are ready to dig deep, and want to experience the daily support, encouragement from others like you. Follow this link to learn more: Releasing Your Authentic Self Support Group.

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How Survivors Can Reclaim Their Power

4/16/2018

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You are not powerless. You might think you are, but I promise you, you’re not. In fact, you are actually quite powerful.  

Yes, the person who abused you was probably someone you knew and trusted. But that doesn’t make the abuse your fault. You are not what happened to you. You are the same wonderful, awesome, powerful person you were before the abuse.  And you always have been.  

But if that’s the truth (and it is), then why have you always felt powerless?  

Because child sexual abuse is one of those topics our society prefers not to talk about.  And not talking about it IS the problem. It makes CSA much worse for everyone. The victims feel powerless because they don’t know what to do about the horrible thing that happened to them. The safe adults around them could have helped. But they didn’t, because they never received CSA prevention education. When no one talks about CSA, everyone loses.

During my keynote speech last April at ABC House, a children’s advocacy center in Oregon, I said I only began to live a powerful life when I discovered how powerful it felt to tell my story. This is the kind of information children, parents, and CSA survivors in our communities are missing. When no one talks about CSA, no one learns how to prevent or heal from it and survivors don't get to take their power back by stepping forward with their truth.

Change has to start with us. Survivors are the ones who must begin the dialogue about CSA and how to prevent it. Because no one else is going to do it.

I was interviewed by Matt at “Surviving My Past” in honor of National Child Abuse Prevention Month. In this interview, we discussed Darkness to Light, the five steps to protecting kids, and the importance of talking about CSA. I think you will really enjoy listening to it and come away having learned a lot. Check it out!


It’s time to reclaim your power, my friends. And you do that by telling your story.

When you do, the kids, parents, and CSA survivors in your community will thank you for it. They need what you have to offer. They need to see your power. They need to know they have the power to prevent CSA or to heal from it.  

They need you and your story. Are you ready to reclaim your power?  
             
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Ready to reclaim your power? Not sure where to start?  Don’t worry. Just follow (this link) to book on my calendar or feel free to call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($125).  Let me help you reclaim your power and start your healing journey.  Reserve your spot NOW! 

Have you read my new book, “Releasing Your Authentic Self”?  If you’re ready to do the deep, hard work of emotional healing, this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback (link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!

Are you looking for more support?  I have created a closed Facebook group for the readers of “Releasing Your Authentic Self”  If you are ready to dig deep, and want to experience the daily support, encouragement from others like you. Follow this link to learn more: Releasing Your Authentic Self Support Group.
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Why Am I Not Moving Forward in My Healing?

3/28/2018

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I wrote this blog post a few months ago and quite a few people responded to it, thanking me for sharing these steps. I am glad I did because I struggled with understanding why I was stuck for a long time. This is a question I asked myself for a long time. Why was I stuck, why did I always fall back to my old destructive ways?

So many people could diagnose me. So many people could tell me what was wrong with me. But few could actually help me heal. It got to be very frustrating and I was discouraged.

Now I know why. Because my healing wasn’t the task of these other people. It was my job. I had to take all the information I had gathered about recovering from child abuse and trauma and move that knowledge from my head to my heart.

In other words, I had to do the tough, messy work of applying it to my own life. But what I was still searching for, even after I gathered the steps, was finding someone to some
how model these steps for me. To engage with me in a way that demonstrated these steps in action. 

Here are the seven steps child abuse and trauma survivors need to take in order to heal. If you want to start to feel a shift in your healing, start to apply them every day. 


  1. Establish Safety.  Figure out what makes you feel safe. This is your first priority.
  2. Develop Courage. Eventually, your willingness to heal will develop into courage, as you take more and more healthy risks.
  3. Create a Mindfulness Practice. Connecting with your body is essential for healing. As abused children, we learned the toxic skill of disconnection.  Mindfulness will help you reconnect.
  4. Express Your Emotions.  Learn how to identify, listen to, feel, and express your emotions in a healthy way. All of them: the good, the bad, and the ugly!
  5. Change Your Negative Beliefs. You created these toxic beliefs as a way to survive an abusive childhood. But you’re an adult now. Change your story (beliefs) to what benefits your adult life.
  6. Practice Self-Care, Self-Love, and Self-Compassion. Put yourself first on your To-Do list.  Every day, find a way to lovingly care for and celebrate yourself. 
  7. Build a Support System. You can’t do this alone. Healing doesn’t work that way. Surround yourself with nourishing friends who support your healing goals, and a safe place to practice your new way of thinking/feeling/being. (This is the part I was missing for a long time.)

Just the act of implementing these seven steps is a major move forward on your healing journey. And even better is joining a group of people that are also making the shift, that are focusing and intending on daily action to heal their lives, to motivate you. Stick with it, stay connected to survivors that are doing the same thing, and you’ll experience a positive shift sooner than you think.

Why? Because healing is hard. Survivors doubt they can heal, wondering if they are worth it. We feel alone with these hard feelings, as if no one can understand. But you are not alone. Because these steps are more than a decision, it is a willingness and a commitment. A commitment to yourself that requires a lifestyle change, a change in your thoughts, feelings, and habits. We can not do that without constant support and accountability.

And that’s how you heal. Finally! And you will have a whole community of people to celebrate you, support you, and encourage you along the way. 

I would not suggest this support if I did not offer it. If you are ready to dig deep and heal this year and looking for the right support for you, please send me a note and book a free 30 min. session with me. (Limited time offer. Offer ends 4/6/18)
 Just follow (this link) 

I offer a few options and groups for you to choose from. Don't struggle alone. You are worthy of support and healing. I believe in you!

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Ready to move forward? Not sure where to start?  Don’t worry.  I can help!  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($125).  Let me help you get moving forward. You deserve it! Reserve your spot NOW! 

Have you read my new book, “Releasing Your Authentic Self”?  If you’re ready to do the deep, hard work of emotional healing, this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback (link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!

Are you looking for more support?  I have created a closed Facebook group for the readers of “Releasing Your Authentic Self”  If you are ready to dig deep, and want to experience the daily support, encouragement from others like you. Follow this link to learn more: Releasing Your Authentic Self Support Group.
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How Being Grateful All Year Long Will Make You a Happier Person

11/22/2017

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I have been slowing down a bit this week in preparation for Thanksgiving. I have family visiting and my son is out on school break. This last weekend I got out some decorations and put out some nice linen on our dining room table. I love the holiday season.

The upcoming holidays made me reflect on an interesting shift that happened a few years ago, when I realized that when I was in my control mode and things had to be just so, I put my traditions above connection and fun. I was terribly stressed out and making everyone miserable. The truth is - I was exhausted through most of the season. 

Isn't it interesting that during the time of year that is dedicated to love, peace, and the harmony of family gatherings, that most of us feel more stressed out, chasing a long list of expectations with a never ending "to do" list before the holidays. 

Once I changed this mindset and brought peace and calm into how I handled the holiday season, I felt happier and I know my family is just as happy. 

Another thing that I am putting more time and effort into is being grateful, not just around the holidays, but counting my blessings, each and every day. 

In the car yesterday, I was reminded by how mainstream the idea of learning to be grateful has become. There was a whole hour on the radio where the host asked expert researchers about the importance of gratitude and what it does for people and callers shared the one thing they were grateful for from 2017. 

So as this year is coming to a close, keep this question in mind: What is the number one thing that you are grateful for from this past year? I would love to hear your answer!

The practice of gratitude forces us to be more aware and mindful of the moment. It requires us to reflect and recall something positive and bring your awareness into your body, how you thought and felt about it in the moment. How did you feel about a hug from a loved one, the beautiful sunset, the warm water on your skin in the shower, the chocolate cake your partner made for you, the smile on your childs face when you took an extra moment to encourage him, the purring cat on your lap...All of these are examples of things are only felt and acknowledged in the moment.

Because of our hardwiring, it is easier to be negative than positive. It takes time and effort to shift our mindset and we do that by focusing and starting to look for the good things in our life. I know there have been times where that was hard but, no matter what, most of us can find something good, no matter how small or insignificant it might seem at first. This is a very powerful practice and over time is how you create new positive feelings and healthy habits. 

Something especially helpful if you are going through a hard time is to write a list every day, of 5 things you are grateful for in you life and spend the day reflecting on it.

Right now, I am feeling grateful for my family, the season, the colorful leaves on the trees, my friends, and the trips I have taken this year, and you, my friend. If you are reading this, I want you to know that I appreciate you - more than you will ever know.  

But the one thing I am most grateful for this year is the time I have spent in nature. I rediscovered that nature was and has always been my sanctuary. I feel so blessed by the strong connection I feel that helps to ground me in my body and gives me access to something much greater than myself. 

I would love to hear from you all, whether it's about practices of gratitude or mindfulness that you use or the thing you are most grateful for over the last year. Don't be afraid to reach out and start a conversation with me about your answer!

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!


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Do you struggle with mindfulness? Not sure how to start a mindfulness practice?  Don’t worry.  I can help!  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100).  Let me help you with the next step to heal your life.  Reserve your spot NOW! 

Have you read my bestselling book, “Journey to the Heart”?  If you’re ready to heal from the effects of abuse or trauma (depression, anxiety, PTSD, allergies, chronic pain, etc.), this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback (link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!


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The Healing Power of Happy Memories

10/2/2017

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How do I start each day?  By putting myself at the top of my To-Do List!

Selfish?  Not at all.  A big part of my healing journey has been learning how to take responsibility for my own happiness and wellbeing.  Making healthy choices for my body, mind, and spirit is my job.  No one else’s.

That means I’m no longer waiting for someone to come along and rescue me, make me happy, or make my life better.  I know the truth.  I know no one is coming, because I’m the only one who can rescue me.  I’m the ‘rescuer” I’ve been waiting for all my life.

How cool is that?!

My daily self-care regime is a gift I give to myself.  It’s one of the many ways in which I honor my authentic self.  A good self-care regime nurtures your mind, body, and spirit.  When I make daily self-care a top priority, I’m putting myself at the top of my To-Do List.

One of my favorite forms of self-care is the practice of recalling happy memories to tap into their incredible healing power.  Dwelling on happy memories releases chemicals and hormones that create new pathways in the brain for healing.

Okay, I know what you’re thinking.  Recalling happy memories is easier said than done for child abuse survivors like us, right?  Exactly!  The first time I tried to do this I wasn’t in a very good place in my life, so I drew a total blank.  I couldn’t think of a single happy memory.  Yikes!

You may be having that problem now, too.  Don’t worry.  Here’s a trick to stimulate your memory.  Just answer these questions:

  1. What are a few good times you’ve had with your pet?
  2. What are you grateful for?  Each of these things will trigger a happy memory.
  3. What is your favorite “happy” song?  Why does it always make you happy?

The answer to these questions will give you a good start on a list of happy memories.  Keep this list handy on your phone or someplace where you’ll see it every day.  That way you can tap into the healing power of this list at any time.

Enjoy your happy memories, my friends.  Choose the good ones and let the others go!  

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Does your mind draw a blank every time you try to create a list of happy memories?  If so, I can help!  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100 per hour).  Let me help you heal your life.  Reserve your spot TODAY!

Have you read my bestselling book, “Journey to the Heart”?  If you’re ready to heal from the effects of abuse or trauma (depression, anxiety, PTSD, allergies, chronic pain, etc.), this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback (link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!

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What Do You Believe, and Does It Serve You?

7/31/2017

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Have you noticed my recent blog posts have been building on a certain theme?  Each one is written to take you deeper and deeper into your healing.  My intent is to help you tackle your core issues and accelerate your healing.  Sounds good, doesn’t it?  I think so!  

Today, let’s talk about what we believe.  It’s more important than you might think.  

Unfortunately, abused children are told many lies.  Children are sponges, and they’re born into this world, trusting their parents and caretakers.  It’s only natural for them to absorb and believe everything they’re taught.  Even if what they’re taught isn’t true.   

Every single thing we do is a direct response to what we believe.  Everything we say and think is also based on these core beliefs.  So my question to you is what do you believe?

Unless you’re consciously choosing healthy beliefs, creating new habits based on those beliefs, and changing your behavior to match those beliefs, you’re living your life on “autopilot.”  Autopilot for a survivor of child abuse means you’ll continue to live according to the toxic lies and beliefs you were taught by your abuser.  Ouch!

To change this toxic lifestyle pattern, I encourage you to question all your beliefs.  Ask yourself: where did this belief come from?  Is it authentic to who I am?  Does it serve me?  Does it serve others?

If you’re not sure what you believe, start here.  I’ve taken six toxic core beliefs, and I’ve changed them into healthy core beliefs.  You can do the same.    

  • Change I am unworthy (the lie) into I am worthy (the truth).
  • Change I have no value (the lie) into I am valuable (the truth).
  • Change I’m not enough (the lie) into I am enough (the truth).
  • Change I am a burden (the lie) into I am a gift (the truth).
  • Change I am weak (the lie) into I am strong (the truth).
  • Change I am not lovable (the lie) into I am loved by God (the truth).

Cultivate the habit of questioning every old and new belief you hold.  If a belief doesn’t serve your authentic self, it’s toxic.  Dump it or change it into a healthy belief.  

That’s how you live day by day as your authentic self!
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Is your brain too foggy from trauma to discover your core toxic beliefs?  Don’t worry.  I can help!  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100 per hour).  Let me help you heal your life.  Reserve your spot TODAY!


Have you read my bestselling book, “Journey to the Heart”?  If you’re ready to heal from the effects of abuse or trauma (depression, anxiety, PTSD, allergies, chronic pain, etc.), this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback (link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!

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How Do We Develop Courage?

7/23/2017

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If you’ve been following my blog for a while, you may remember I wrote a blog post a few weeks ago about the 7 steps most child abuse survivors must take in order to heal.  

I received a wonderful response to it from several of you.  Thanks!  If you haven’t had a chance to read it yet, here’s the link:
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In this blog post, I’d like to discuss the second of these 7 steps: Develop Courage.  As you know, we don’t start out on our healing journey feeling courageous.  In the beginning, courage is the last thing we feel.  We’re uncertain of the path, the process, and the outcome.  
That’s a completely normal response.  Fortunately, your willingness to heal will eventually develop into courage with each healthy risk you take on your journey.

The reason we don’t feel courageous is because change is hard for survivors of child abuse.  Thankfully, we’re not defenseless kids anymore.  We’re adults.  Now we’re the ones with all the power.  We can make the choice to heal.  We can be willing to change.  We can take small steps forward every day on our healing journey.  We can use purposeful intent to work each of these 7 steps.  

Yes, we’ll probably have to remind ourselves every day of our commitment to heal.  I know I did!  But that daily reminder is what keeps us going.

Today, I want you to realize you’re already a courageous person.  You may not feel that way, I know.  But it takes tremendous courage to begin your healing journey.  And you did that.  

Now you need to wake up every morning, willing to do what it takes that day to heal.  Do this every morning, and one day you’ll blossom into a capable, courageous, loving human being.

When it happens, that will be a very special day.  It’ll be the day you rediscover your authentic self.  How exciting!
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Are you having trouble with this second step?  Is feeling courageous a stumbling block for you?  If so, I can help!  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100 per hour).  Let me help you heal your life.  Reserve your spot TODAY!

Have you read my bestselling book, “Journey to the Heart”?  If you’re ready to heal from the effects of abuse or trauma (depression, anxiety, PTSD, allergies, chronic pain, etc.), this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback 
(link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!


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Which Story Are You Telling?

5/22/2017

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Child abuse survivors don’t have just one story.  We have three.  

The first story is the one that takes the most courage to tell.  It’s the one about what happened to us.  It’s a story of trauma, abuse, and victimization.  We all have to start there.  This is your “Trauma Story.”  It’s important to realize this is actually a story about the abuser, the person who hurt you and betrayed your innocence, heart, and trust.

You can’t move forward with your healing until you acknowledge the impact of this traumatic experience.  And that includes allowing yourself to feel the emotional pain.  Telling this story is part of that.  

The second story we tell is our “Healing Story.”  It charts our path of survival.  This is a story about how we chose to rise above the abuse, trauma, shame, and betrayal of our dark past.  How we chose to claim our truth and lovingly care for ourselves.  How we chose to be safe in our bodies and set healthy personal boundaries with other people.  And how we chose to rescue, soothe, and validate ourselves.

If you’re not sure which story you’re telling, ask yourself these questions:
  • Do I fear being alone?
  • Do I need others to make me feel safe?
  • Do I often feel sad, depressed, or guilty?
  • Do I get angry with myself and others?

A survivor of child abuse is a work-in-progress.  The learning never stops.  If you answered “Yes” to any of these questions, you’re telling your “Healing Story.”  You’re in the process of solving your major issues.  You’re taking responsibility for the things you can change, and you’re learning how to let go of the things you can’t change.  

Next, how would you answer these questions?
  • Do I trust my feelings?
  • Do I feel loveable and worthy of support?
  • Do I feel safe?

When you can answer “No” to the first set of questions and “Yes” to the second set, you’ve begun to tell your “Survivor to Thriver Story.”  You’re living your authentic self every day.  You’re writing your hero’s journey.  You’re intentionally creating the happy, healthy, joyous life of your dreams.  Wow, right?!

So think about it.  Which story are you telling today?
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Are you having a difficult time figuring out which story you’re telling and what step you should take next on your healing journey?  If so, I can help.  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100 per hour).  Let me help you heal your life.  Reserve your spot TODAY!


​Have you read my bestselling book, “Journey to the Heart”?  If you’re ready to heal from the effects of abuse or trauma (depression, anxiety, PTSD, allergies, chronic pain, etc.), this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback 
(link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!



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It’s Time to Reclaim Your Power!

5/1/2017

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You’re not powerless.  You might think you are, but you’re not.  In fact, you’re actually quite powerful.  

Yes, the person who abused you was probably someone you knew and trusted.  But that doesn’t make the abuse your fault.  You’re not what happened to you.  You’re the same wonderful, awesome, powerful person you were before the abuse.  And you always have been.  

But if that’s the truth (and it is), then why have you always felt powerless?  

Because child sexual abuse is one of those topics our society prefers not to talk about.  And not talking about it is the problem.  It makes CSA much worse for everyone.  The victims feel powerless, because they don’t know what to do about the horrible thing that happened to them.  The safe adults around them could have helped.  But they didn’t, because they never received CSA prevention education.  When no one talks about CSA, everyone loses.

During my keynote speech this month at ABC House, a children’s advocacy center in Oregon, I said I only began to live a powerful life when I discovered how powerful it felt to tell my story.  This is the kind of information children, parents, and CSA survivors in our communities are missing.  When no one talks about CSA, no one learns how to prevent or heal from it.

Change has to start with us.  Survivors are the ones who must begin the dialogue about CSA and how to prevent it.  No one else is going to do it.

A few weeks ago, I was interviewed by Matt at “Surviving My Past” (Link).  In this interview, we discussed Darkness to Light, the five steps to protecting kids, and the importance of talking about CSA.  

It’s time to reclaim your power, my friends.  And you do that by telling your story.

When you do, the kids, parents, and CSA survivors in your community will thank you for it.  They need what you have to offer.  They need to see your power.  They need to know they have the power to prevent CSA or to heal from it.  

They need you and your story.  Are you ready to reclaim your power?  

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Are you struggling to recover from child abuse or trauma in your past?  If so, I can help.  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100 per hour).  Let me help you heal your life.  Reserve your spot TODAY!

Have you read my bestselling book, “Journey to the Heart”?  If you’re ready to heal from the effects of abuse or trauma (depression, anxiety, PTSD, allergies, chronic pain, etc.), this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback (link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!

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Do You Know How Courageous You Are?!

4/23/2017

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Abuse and trauma survivors are incredibly strong people.  We know our strength is what helped us survive, and it’s what keeps us going now.  Yet we know something is missing.

This missing link is courage.  We know we’re strong.  But we’ve never allowed ourselves to realize that we’re also courageous people.  And we always have been.  

That’s because courage is risky.  The only thing we’ve ever wanted is what we never had as abused children: safety.  Risk makes you vulnerable.  No thanks, right?

Hey, I can relate.  I knew I was a strong person to have survived over a decade of child sexual abuse.  But courageous?  Me?  Nah, no way.  I was willing to work hard on my healing journey, but courage felt too risky and vulnerable.  Nope, that’s not me.

Somehow we can’t see courage in ourselves.  But it’s easy to see it in others.  And that’s where you need to start.  Think of someone you believe is not only strong but also courageous.  Adopt this person as your role model.

Next, think about what makes this person courageous?  It might be her fearless personal authenticity or her honesty.  Maybe he’s taken a stand against injustice by his actions or words.  Maybe she’s simply chosen the road less travelled.  What is it about this person that touches your heart and earns your admiration?

Guess what?  Whatever it is that makes this person courageous is a quality you also possess.  It’s true.  When you choose to heal from abuse and trauma, reach out for support, open yourself to others in an online group for survivors, talk about your past, or receive comfort from other survivors, that’s an act of courage.  

Allow the revelation of your courageousness to sink in.  When you do, you’ll discover courage is actually a source of safety.  Now it’s okay to let your guard down a little, ask for more support, love more, have more fun, and feel more gratitude for everything you’ve accomplished.  Why?  Because now you know you’re safe.    

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Is it impossible for you to believe you’re a courageous person?  Is courage a difficult concept for you to comprehend?  If so, I can help.  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100 per hour).  Let me help you heal your life.  Reserve your spot TODAY!

Have you read my bestselling book, “Journey to the Heart”?  If you’re ready to heal from the effects of abuse or trauma (depression, anxiety, PTSD, allergies, chronic pain, etc.), this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback (link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!

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