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How to Program Your Mind for Happiness

9/26/2016

Are you plagued every morning with a feeling of anxiety, depression, sadness, or despair? Is it common for you to wake up with this kind of dark cloud hanging over your head?

Today, I’ll show you how to transform despair into joy. It’s all about “mind control.” Mind control is the key to true happiness and joy.

The first step is to observe your negative mood rather than running from it, ignoring it, suppressing it, or giving into it like you usually do. After a while, you’ll notice this dark mood is most often associated with certain fearful thoughts about the future.

The root of all anxiety, depression, sadness, and despair is fear. You’re fearful about a scenario you imagine will happen in the future concerning a certain person or situation.

However, this is just an imaginary scenario, isn’t it? It hasn’t happened yet and may never happen. You’re just torturing yourself with your imagination. No wonder it makes you feel awful. Yikes!

The more you observe your dark moods the more you’ll realize every time you think about certain people, situations, or subjects a fearful scenario comes to mind. The next step is to make a list of all the people, situations, and subjects that bring to mind these fearful scenarios in an imaginary future.

This is your “Don’t Think About This” list. Like I said, mind control is the key to true happiness and joy. Mind control is simply not thinking about anything on this list.

Try it today. It will take some practice, but controlling what you allow your mind to think about every day is your responsibility. Choose thoughts that flood your mind with joy and happiness. Choose the reality of the present moment. Reject all thoughts of fearful scenarios in an imaginary future.

Making this simple choice will instantly transform your life from one of chronic sadness to joy and happiness. Try it today. You’ll be amazed how well it works. And fast, too!

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Are you overwhelmed with sadness, despair, depression, or anxiety? I can help. Just email me at svava@educate4change.com to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me. My calendar is filling up fast, so don’t wait. Let me help you heal your life. Reserve your spot NOW!

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Do You Need To Be Rescued?

7/30/2016

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All survivors of child abuse want to heal. We really do. But when given the chance, we rarely leap at it. Instead, we hesitate and hold back.

Why? Because healing requires stepping out of our comfort zone, and this terrifies the subconscious. Yes, we know we’re stuck and miserable. But it’s familiar territory. We can manage it. If we venture out and move beyond this dysfunctional safety zone, we’ll no longer have complete control.

Eeeek!!! Scary stuff.

Healing began for me on the day I realized there was a “civil war” going on inside me. One part of me (fear) demanded to be rescued. It lived in a fantasy world and truly believed someone would appear out of nowhere to save me. This toxic belief was holding me hostage.

The other part of me (my heart) was trying to set me free. It was grounded in reality, not fantasy. My heart knew no one was coming to rescue me. It told me I didn’t need to be rescued, because I already had everything I needed to heal and restore.

My heart wanted to be my personal cheerleader. However, it was up to me to take action. So I did. I tuned out fear, tuned into my heart, and took that first step.

I made myself a top priority, and I did this every day. It was the only way to create the necessary internal shift from living in fear to living in hope.

Every day I put self-care at the top of my list. One day I would reach out for support. The next day I would do something good for my body, like making healthy changes in my diet or signing up for an exercise class. The next day I would read an inspiring book. And so on. I took action like this every single day to prove to myself I was serious about healing.

That’s how you walk the healing journey: one self-loving day at a time. No mysterious rescuer is coming to save you. But there’s no need. You can rescue yourself. Just listen to your heart. It knows!

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Break the Power of Fear!

6/18/2016

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Lately, we’ve all been exposed to some terrifying events in the news. I know the impact this has had on me. And I know it has shaken a few of my clients. So I think it’s time we talk about fear.

First, there was the outrage over the verdict in the Stanford rape case. This has been an emotionally difficult experience for all sexual abuse survivors. I applaud those who spoke up, stepped forward in support of the victim, and demanded more accountability from our judicial system. And I applaud the courage and strength of the victim for her decision to go public with her testimony.

Next, there was the horrendous shooting in Orlando. The pain, grief, and senselessness of a mass murder is hard to fathom. The sadness of this tragedy almost overwhelmed me. And I wasn’t alone. A few of my clients were also triggered by the shooting. In some way, every trauma survivor has been shaken by it.

After years of living in fear, I know its power all too well. Fortunately, fear no longer rules my life. I’ve worked hard to conquer it. However, that doesn’t mean fear no longer rears its ugly head. It does. It just means I’ve learned how to manage it.

Fear is fueled by fear. The more fearful you become, the more power you give it. I no longer allow this to happen. I can feel fear in my body. I can see it coming. Because of my abusive past, fear will always be a part of who I am. But I don’t give it control. Instead, I break its power the minute it appears.

How? By talking to it like an old friend. I say: “Fear, I see you. I hear you. But I don’t need you right now. I’m not that scared little girl anymore. I’m a grown woman. I can handle this situation. You’re free to go. Thank you for checking in with me, but I’m doing just fine without you. Goodbye!”

The next time fear comes calling in your life, talk to it like that. You can’t completely eliminate fear from your life. But you can break its power. Start today. It’s a wonderful feeling!
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Are you struggling with fear? Does fear control your life? If so, I can help you break its power. Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me. My calendar is filling up fast, so don’t wait. Let me help you heal your life. Reserve your spot NOW!

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