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The Messy Middle Part of Your Healing Journey

3/5/2018

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Going through the hard part of healing, the messy middle, is demonstrated in what we see in nature as the winter turning to spring. At first, it looks muddy, gray, or lifeless. The frost, the layers of snow, the piles of dead leafs, the smell of decay and dirt is not always pleasant. You may even find yourself wading through the puddles of muddy water, muddy paths on your favorite hike, and slippery river banks as the water is running into the rivers and the river water is all cloudy and gray. 

How can you take solace in watching nature this season while you perhaps are going through your deep healing or the messy middle?

We have learned to trust the process and the season of change in nature, haven't we?  We know what happens and we know why. 

The same is happening on your healing journey. You have been courageously digging deep, gaining awareness that gave you clarity of what issues you are addressing or healing. You have planted a seed of new possibility for yourself. Whether it is your thinking or feeling that you are working to shift and change, if it is a deep core belief, a personal truth, or a boundary that you are establishing with yourself or others, the process is always the same and it takes time.   

After a dark, cold winder, we go into a soggy, messy spring that eventually leads to longer days, greener pastures, and blooming trees and flowers. The cycle is the same, every time. 

To support yourself through this process of healing, in times when you have forgotten that you are going through a cycle of change and that things do get better, make sure you have good support.Stay close and connected to others that are going through the same process, that can encourage you when things get hard. Don't go through healing alone. It is harder and more painful to do it alone. 

It takes courage to choose healing. Most of that courage is going to be needed to trust yourself, trust the process, to stay out of the way of what your body, mind, and spirit can and will do to heal itself. Because, just like in nature, a season of change is always right around the corner for you. The night is always darkest just before the dawn!

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Going through the messy middle? Feel stuck or alone?  Don’t worry.  I can help!  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($125).  Let me help you with the next step to heal your life. You deserve it! Reserve your spot NOW! 

Have you read my new book, “Releasing Your Authentic Self”?  If you’re ready to do the deep, hard work of emotional healing, this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback (link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!

Are you looking for more support?  I have created a closed Facebook group for the readers of “Releasing Your Authentic Self”  If you are ready to dig deep, and want to experience the daily support, encouragement from others like you. Follow this link to learn more: Releasing Your Authentic Self Support Group.
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Creating a Deeper Connection With Yourself By Facing Your Feelings

2/5/2018

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Do you hide behind perfectionism or by micromanaging everything and everyone?  

I understand because I used to do that too. When I started my healing journey and started to understand how my shame and low self esteem kept me running in circles trying to hide all the ways I felt imperfect, I was flooded by sadness. 


For most of my life, I had spent so much energy keeping the feelings at bay by working myself into the ground trying to be perfect, or just good enough it seemed. This negative energy kept feeding on itself, that no matter how hard I worked and how much better I tried to perform, it never felt good enough.
 

This fear of being found out can also get in the way of us having close meaningful relationships. You'll waste so much time and energy in relationships always performing a task, trying to be good enough/helpful enough, or hoping for some shred of validation from others that your life looks okay.

This is truly a vicious cycle that feeds your anxiety, fear, guilt, shame, and distrust towards yourself and others, that in turn you try to protect yourself from, by blaming, judging, care-taking, withdrawing, or explaining. Then in turn, this protective behavior creates problems in your relationships, makes you feel exhausted and you're stuck, not knowing how to make a change or to stop this cycle. 


So how do you stop this cycle?  

The first step is to becoming aware if it. After that, there are some steps you can take:

1. Whenever you feel anything other than peace or joy in your body, get curious. 

2. Put your hand on your heart and take a few deep breaths to locate the feeling.

3. Ask this feeling what it is you're doing/saying to yourself that makes you feel this way.

4. Listen to your body. Your body is incredibly wise and is on your side. 

5. Validate your body/feelings. "I hear you, I see you, I feel you. Thank you for telling me the truth."

6. Take loving action. Give yourself the grace of time to work on this tension/feeling/fear in your body. Commit to checking in regularly. 

These simple steps can make such a big difference over time. You are demonstrating value and your worth by starting to listen to your body and creating a deeper connection with yourself through self-compassion.  

The truth is no one can define your worth but you. The truth is you are inherently valuable and worthy of love. You are a good, compassionate human being capable of caring, empathy, and joy. 

When we start to recognize and embrace this simple truth, we let go of needing other's approval because in your heart of hearts you know who you are, what you are, how you serve, and you know why!

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Ready to start to feel your feelings? Not sure where to start?  Don’t worry.  I can help!  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100).  Let me help you with the next step to heal your life.  Reserve your spot NOW! 

Have you read my new book, “Releasing Your Authentic Self”?  If you’re ready to do the deep, hard work of emotional healing, this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback (link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!


Are you looking for more support?  I have created a closed Facebook group for the readers of “Releasing Your Authentic Self”  If you are ready to dig deep, and want to experience the daily support, encouragement from others like you. Follow this link to learn more: Releasing Your Authentic Self Support Group.
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Why Having Your Feelings is Necessary for Healing

1/22/2018

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There is always a theme in my work with my clients. Lately, we have been talking a bit about feeling our feelings. 

How do you feel about having your feelings? Does the thought of it make you feel uneasy, even scared? You are not alone. 

For most survivors of child abuse, the thought of expressing or allowing ourselves to feel what we have been hiding for so long is terrifying. Victims of abuse saw all kinds of violence and abuse take place around them and they knew instinctively that it was not safe to feel any of it, so victims shut it down and push it away.


It was not safe to talk about or to feel. Period. When children don't have the safety they need to talk about what happened, they turn it onto themselves. The repressed anger and fear turns into shame that feeds the part of you that feels responsible for what happened and that you caused it to happen.  

And though the repression might have kept you safe at the time, it is now the thing that is preventing your healing. In order to heal from our childhood, we have to learn to feel our feelings. There is just no way around it. Shame can hold survivors hostage for a long time. It is also the part of you that will come up to stop you when you feel ready to make some changes in your life, talk about what happened, and perhaps learn how to feel your feelings.

So where do we start? We start with learning where we have stored the feelings and the energy that we felt along with them. It is in our bodies. With a safe person, you learn to scan your body for where you are holding this feeling. Once you find it, you can gently let it know you are here to acknowledge the feeling, helping it to be seen and heard. It may be scared but it does want to be seen by you. Take as long as you need to sit with this feeling. Let the feeling and your body know that you are not going to rush it and no matter what the feeling is, it is not wrong or bad for feeling that.  

I invite my clients to put a hand on their hearts to support their body and their heart and feel the support for themselves. If that feels like too much, just talk gently in a soft voice to your feeling, let it feel your presence and kindness. Then as you feel it, intentionally let it go in a way that feels meaningful to you. Imagine driving it out through your feet into the earth. Or perhaps sending it away with the wind, giving it to God, writing it on piece of paper, and burning it in the fire.  


There are so many ways we can explore feeling and honoring our feelings. It is important. It is your truth. And the more you say your truth, the more it sets you free. 


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Ready to tackle the impact of your trauma? Not sure where to start?  Don’t worry.  I can help!  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100).  Let me help you with the next step to heal your life.  Reserve your spot NOW! 


Have you read my new book, “Releasing Your Authentic Self”?  If you’re ready to do the deep, hard work of emotional healing, this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback (link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!


Are you looking for more support?  I have created a closed Facebook group for the readers of “Releasing Your Authentic Self”  If you are ready to dig deep, and want to experience the daily support, encouragement from others like you. Follow this link to learn more: Releasing Your Authentic Self Support Group.
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Heal From Abuse by Validating Your Hurt Inner Child

12/18/2017

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Do you get hurt a lot in life? Do people just seem to let you down constantly or it feels like they are intentionally hurting you? Does it feel like a reoccurring theme in your life?  It used to be for me too. 


The reason why you, as an adult, always feel hurt by others is not necessarily because those other adults actually are hurting you. It is because your inner child is hurting and  is seeking that validation all the time, in good ways and bad. The part of you that needs your validation is your hurt and your hurt is being fed by your inner child.


You were just a child and might have even depended on the person that hurt you. This betrayal sets you up for expecting the worst from those that are closest to you. And therefore we often choose never to risk letting anyone in, in the first place... since you believe it is just a matter of time before the betray you.

I did not find a way to break my silence and get the help I needed until I was in my twenties. I had struggled with isolation and depression because it felt very risky to open up to people, to let them in. I was very social but I did not know how to connect on a deep, meaningful level. I didn't understand it then, but what I was hiding was my shame. When we feel that we are bad or shameful, we live our life on guard, always defensive and expecting the worst. 
 
The hard part is for us to become aware of how present this core but false belief is in your life. I would like to invite you to consider that deep inside there is a hurt little child that is asking for your help, that needs your help.  And I remember in the beginning, the idea of connecting with my little girl was scary. The feelings and the hurt were big and felt too big for me to handle at first. The sadness, the anger, the loneliness, feeling so unlovable. Yikes, I can still remember how hard those feelings felt.  


Here is the good news. The feelings are big but not as big as you think. They only feel big because that inner child is little, but you are not, not anymore.

But this inner child is the source of most of your pain, anxiety, and depression. It is the part of you that desperately needs you to learn to know and feel your feelings in a healthy way and let that sad little child feel the feelings while you lovingly listen, seeing and feeling everything he/she needs to let go of the hurt. 

When I learned to hold, validate, and love my little girl, it was as if someone had put me into a different world. It did take time but slowly it felt like people were more loving towards me and I had an easier time setting boundaries and saying no. When I connected with this precious part of myself, I wanted to protect her, love her, stay healthy for her, and help her express the truth that she had been denied for so long. 


So whether this is your first visit to my blog or the twentieth, I hope this empowers you to dig deeper and start to connect with your wounded little self. That is  the part of you that holds your light and all of your many the gifts to the world. It is worth exploring what gifts he/she can bring to your life if you let him/her.

I would love to hear how you are doing with your emotions and what feeling you find the hardest to express. If you are not sure how to do that or where to start, I am doing a webinar this week that I know will help you get started on learning about inner child work and learning how to love yourself after abuse.

Here is the link to register for the webinar.

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Want to be learn more about your inner child or how to feel your feelings in a safe way? Not sure where to start?  Don’t worry.  I can help!  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100).  Let me help you with the next step to heal your life.  Reserve your spot NOW! 

Have you read my bestselling book, “Journey to the Heart”?  If you’re ready to heal from the effects of abuse or trauma (depression, anxiety, PTSD, allergies, chronic pain, etc.), this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback (link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!


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How to Become a Compassionate Parent

10/10/2017

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There are many benefits to learning how to feel your emotions.  One is it helps you become a more compassionate, empathetic parent.

The weekend before I flew to Iceland, I pulled my luggage out of our storage room and came across the boxes I’m saving for my girls.  These boxes contain all of my daughters’ art, birthday decorations, cards, diaries, etc., from the time they were little girls.

It was a family weekend, so we all decided to go through these mementoes together.  It was a sweet experience, but also a sad one when my daughter, Sabrina, found a journal she’d written in elementary school.  While reading a few pages out loud, she was flooded with painful memories.  She had written this journal during a time when I was so busy with my life that she had felt invisible.  

Sabrina was triggered by this painful memory and expressed it.  As you can imagine, it was hard for me to hear.  But rather than reacting defensively, I sat with her and let her cry it out.

Parenting isn’t easy for survivors of child abuse.  When my girls were in elementary school, I hadn’t started my healing journey.  I was still trapped in my trauma.  Back then, I couldn’t allow them to express their painful feelings of emotional abandonment.  But now I can.  

This is what compassionate parenting looks like.  You can help your children feel and release their painful memories, too.  Here are some suggestions:

  • Don’t react defensively, flinch, or dismiss their pain.
  • Sit with your children and allow them to feel their emotions and express them.
  • Allow yourself to feel your children’s painful emotions, too.
  • Tell your children you feel their pain, hear them, and see them.
  • Tell your children you know the past hurt them, and you’re sorry.
  • Tell your children you’ll never shame them for expressing their feelings.
  • Tell your children it’s okay to express painful feelings about their past.
  • Listen to your children with all your heart.
  • Give them your total attention, support, and love.

Like me, I’m sure you wish you could have been a more compassionate parent in the past.  But the past is gone, and things have changed.  Now you have the opportunity to create new, healthy, happy memories as a family.  Today is a great day to start!  

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Is compassionate parenting difficult for you?  Would you like to learn more about how to do this?  If so, I can help!  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100 per hour).  Let me help you heal your life.  Reserve your spot TODAY!

Have you read my bestselling book, “Journey to the Heart”?  If you’re ready to heal from the effects of abuse or trauma (depression, anxiety, PTSD, allergies, chronic pain, etc.), this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback (link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!
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Why Am I Afraid to Feel?

9/25/2017

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All survivors of child abuse and trauma are afraid to feel, accept, trust, and appreciate their uncomfortable or negative emotions.

Why are we like that?  

We fear and avoid these emotions, because we never had a positive role model to teach us how to express sadness, grief, overwhelm, anger, pain, and anxiety in a healthy way.  Instead, we got hurt when the adults in our life felt these challenging emotions.

However, developing the ability to feel, accept, trust, and appreciate all your emotions (the good, the bad, and the ugly) is a vital step on the healing journey.  It’s impossible to heal if you skip it.

So where do you start?

Feeling begins with awareness.  Sounds easy, doesn’t it?  Not for us.  The human brain is programmed to avoid pain at all costs.  Child abuse taught us to equate pain with emotion, especially uncomfortable emotions.  Because of that, we usually need support to help us identify those risky emotions.  We simply can’t “see” them in ourselves.

Willingness unlocks the door to awareness.  If you’re willing, answer these questions the next time you feel uncomfortable.  They’ll help you identify the emotion you’re feeling.

  • Where in my body am I feeling discomfort?
  • What is this feeling trying to tell me?
  • Can I name it?
  • Am I willing to take responsibility for it?
  • Was it triggered by something in the present?
  • Was it triggered by a memory from the past?
  • Is it true or false?
  • If it’s true, what can I learn from it?
  • If it’s false, what can I learn from it?
  • How can I express and release this emotion in a positive, healthy way?

The process of feeling, accepting, trusting, and appreciating your emotions helps you connect to your own wants and needs in a way you’ve never experienced before.  Best of all, it creates a sense of inner peace.

And inner peace is the primary goal of the healing journey.  We want to feel at peace in our bodies.  We want peace of mind.  Inner peace is something we’ve always craved.  

Well, this is how you achieve it!
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Are you afraid to feel?  When you feel uncomfortable, does your brain suddenly go numb?   If so, I can help!  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100 per hour).  Let me help you heal your life.  Reserve your spot TODAY!

Have you read my bestselling book, “Journey to the Heart”?  If you’re ready to heal from the effects of abuse or trauma (depression, anxiety, PTSD, allergies, chronic pain, etc.), this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback (link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!

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Living Out of Your Truth

9/18/2017

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The trauma from child abuse disconnects us from the truth we feel in our hearts.  The healing journey is about finding your way back to your truth.  Being able to feel again is how you do that.  It's one of the incredible blessings of the healing journey.   


We spend a lot of time learning how to safely feel and release our negative emotions like fear, shame, pain, and loneliness.  But there comes a time when we need to learn how to feel positive emotions, too.  Why?  Because these emotions are our truth.

What is your truth?  It’s the same as mine:
  • Love
  • Kindness
  • Peace
  • Joy
  • Compassion
  • Goodness
  • Patience
  • Gratitude

Slowly work your way down this list and practice “feeling” each of these truths.  Allow them to saturate your heart, soul, body, and spirit until they become a part of you.  

Actually, these truths have always been a part of you.  The trauma of child abuse simply disconnected you from them.  When I began to feel these truths, I could finally feel grounded.  I knew for the first time I am loved, I am kind, I am safe, and I can live in peace.

Eventually, these statements of my truth became my new core beliefs.  When that happened, I was ready to practice living out of my truth.  I did that by allowing these core beliefs to guide all of my thoughts, words, and actions.

You can do this, too!  Think about it.  In what way do you plan to live out of your truth today?

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Is it difficult for you to feel positive emotions?  If so, I can help!  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100 per hour).  Let me help you heal your life.  Reserve your spot TODAY!

Have you read my bestselling book, “Journey to the Heart”?  If you’re ready to heal from the effects of abuse or trauma (depression, anxiety, PTSD, allergies, chronic pain, etc.), this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback (link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!

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Parenting Your Inner Child

8/21/2017

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Becoming a loving, caring, nurturing parent to your inner child can be scary at first.  This child remembers every minute of the child abuse you survived, even if you’ve blocked out the worst of it.  Ouch!  

But don’t worry.  Your inner child isn’t going to unleash all those horrible memories on you.  Instead, it will only be the parts of you that need healing, the parts you have rejected or ignored.

Yes, your inner child is angry.  That’s scary, too.  Mine was furious.  She wasn’t as upset about the abuse from the past as she was the fact that I had rejected her for decades.  I kept giving her to other people to love.  She didn’t want their love.  She wanted mine.

The wonderful thing about making the commitment to do inner child work is you discover just how loving you can be as an adult.  In my case, I discovered I was capable of creating safety for this little girl.  I could make her a top priority in my life.  I could protect her.  I could even help her express her negative emotions without allowing her to wallow in self-pity and blame.  I had no idea I could do any of this until I tried.

I keep a photo of myself as a child on my nightstand.  Seeing her every day helps me stay connected to her.  When I look at it, I feel her presence, and she feels mine.  That’s usually all she needs to feel safe.

Whenever fear or anxiety appears in my body I know it’s her.  All I have to do is ask her what she needs from me.  It’s usually a safety issue.  I may have taken a big step in my career, or a troublesome situation may have triggered her.  She just needs to know I’m there for her and will protect her.  I’m her loving parent and always will be.   

What I love most about my inner child is that she’s also the part of me connected to God.  By loving myself in this way, I’m opening the door to God’s unconditional love.  I may be parenting her, but she is teaching me how to love everyone and everything.

Wow.  It doesn’t get any better than that, my friends!
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Do you need help connecting with and learning how to parent your inner child?  Is healthy change difficult for you?  I can help!  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100 per hour).  Let me help you heal your life.  Reserve your spot TODAY! 

Have you read my bestselling book, “Journey to the Heart”?  If you’re ready to heal from the effects of abuse or trauma (depression, anxiety, PTSD, allergies, chronic pain, etc.), this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback (link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!


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How Do I Connect With My Wounded Inner Child?

8/14/2017

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Every time you make a decision to change a toxic behavior pattern, your wounded inner child will appear.  It’s what makes healthy change hard for us.

And that’s why inner child work is so important.  You can’t recover from child abuse and trauma without doing this deep, messy work.

Your wounded inner child is that very young part of yourself, who was hurt by the abuse and is still in pain.  In my case, it was my 6-year old self.  She was angry for never being seen, heard, or valued.  She believed the only way she could ever be worthy was by overachieving and taking care of everyone else’s needs, while ignoring hers.

Because I could feel her anger, resentment, and pain, I was terrified of her.  So I rejected her for decades.  Of course, that just added to her painful burden.

Inner child work is the practice of building a loving relationship with your abused inner child and becoming the loving parent that child never had.  Easier said than done, right?  I mean, how do you do that when you never had a loving parent?  Here’s how to start!

  • Whenever you feel unrest inside you, stop, and listen to it.
  • Sit with this unrest until you can name it (anxiety, depression, sadness, overwhelm, grief, fear, loneliness, etc.).
  • Place your hand on your heart, so your wounded inner child can feel you.
  • Close your eyes and visualize a safe place for your inner child to feel comfortable talking to you.
  • Ask your inner child what it’s trying to tell you.
  • Listen to whatever this child says with an open mind, whether you agree with it or not.  That’s what a loving parent does.
  • Cuddle this precious child in your arms and take loving action by letting it know you hear it, see it, acknowledge it, and value it.  

Basically, all your inner child wants is to be loved by YOU.  That’s it.  You do this by making your inner child a top priority, creating a sense of safety for it, and giving it all the love and care it craved but never received.  

Few things are more rewarding in life than building a peaceful, loving relationship with your wounded inner child.  It’s not an easy process, and it won’t happen overnight.  But it’s well worth the effort, because it always leads to major breakthroughs.

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Are you struggling to build a relationship with your wounded inner child?  Is healthy change difficult for you?  I can help!  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100 per hour).  Let me help you heal your life.  Reserve your spot TODAY!
Have you read my bestselling book, “Journey to the Heart”?  If you’re ready to heal from the effects of abuse or trauma (depression, anxiety, PTSD, allergies, chronic pain, etc.), this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback (link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!


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Creating a Healthy Sense of Peace in Your Relationships

6/19/2017

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If you follow me on Facebook, you’ve probably seen the photo I posted of my husband and I in 1993.  I was pregnant with my first child, and we were looking forward to starting our family.


Even though we’ve been through some really rough times in the last 24 years, our love for each other has carried us through.  My husband, David, is still my best friend.  He helped me heal my wounded heart.  I’ve cried rivers of tears in his arms, as he listened to the pain from my past.  Over and over again, he has lovingly reminded me I’m more than my abusive childhood.


Here are several truths I’ve learned for child abuse survivors about marriage.  These are all things I wish someone had told me back in 1993.

  1. Heal for yourself, not for anyone else.  My initial decision to heal was for my kids.  I didn’t want to pass the pain from my abusive childhood to them.  I wanted that toxic legacy to end with me.  Eventually, I realized healing only happens when you do it for yourself.
  2. Our parents taught us how to build toxic relationships, not healthy ones.  Do what you need to do to learn how to create the healthy, happy relationships you’ve always wanted.
  3. Your kids watch you like a hawk.  Children are sponges.  They not only absorb everything you say but also everything you do.  Make sure what they see in you is a model for how to build the loving, healthy, nourishing relationships they deserve.
  4. Your responsibility is to make YOU happy.  This isn’t the responsibility of your spouse or kids.  You’re the only one who can truly make you happy.  To do this, find out what you want in life and give it to yourself.
  5. Perfect marriages don’t exist.  My husband and I were two people from dysfunctional families, who fell in love.  That’s what we brought to the table.  As we’ve both healed from childhood trauma, our goal has been to create a place of peace for ourselves and our kids.  


Life continues to send challenges our way.  Even so, our primary goal has remained the same.  We’re committed to creating a safe, healthy, family environment where the truth can be voiced and our emotions can be expressed.  We don’t require everyone in our family to be happy 100% of the time.  We just want our home to be a peaceful one in which it’s safe to nurture your authentic self.  


After all, creating peace in this world starts at home, right?  

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Are you and your spouse struggling with your relationship?  Does peace in your family seem like an impossible goal?  If so, I can help!  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100 per hour).  Let me help you heal your life.  Reserve your spot TODAY!


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