That was the day I realized I talked to myself in the same abusive manner in which I had been treated as a child. Yikes! I was unkind, harsh, and super critical of myself in every way.
It’s true. I never talked to myself like I talk to the people I love. With those people, my words were kind, compassionate, gentle, empathetic, and loving. But that’s not the way I talked to myself. Not even close. I was incredibly hard on myself. I was an abusive perfectionist, constantly beating myself up for the lack of perfection in my life.
Discovering this was like opening the door to a cage I’d been imprisoned in my entire life. It was exhilarating to realize I could finally break free from this horrible inner critic.
Yet it was also frightening. I’d never been taught how to be good to myself. How do you do that? Where should I start?
After years of trial and error, I learned to become my own cheerleader. If you’re like me and your own worst inner critic, begin today to change that. Start by choosing a kind word for yourself. It should be something you've been longing to hear whispered in your ear while you're being gently hugged. Then choose another kind word. Then another.
When you’re comfortable with this, make a list of all your good qualities. Maybe you have a big, compassionate heart. Maybe you’re a giving, helpful person. All those qualities should be on your list. Review this list every day until the revelation of your wonderfulness sinks deeply into your soul. Then you, too, will become your own cheerleader!
Soon it’ll be impossible for you to say anything abusive to yourself. You’ll simply love yourself too much. And that’s the way it should be!
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