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What To Do If You Feel Unlovable

10/16/2016

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It's impossible to love others if you can't love yourself fully and completely.  That's just how love works.  I mean, you can't give away what you don't have, right?

If you struggle with being loving to yourself, that simply means you don't know what real love looks like, or how it's supposed to feel.  Many of us grew up this way because we were abused as children.  All we saw was a highly toxic, distorted form of "love," which wasn't real love at all. 

If that sounds like your childhood, I know how you feel.  Expressing love was so hard for me, it was infuriating!  But if I can learn how to do it, so can you.  Learning how to truly love is the most important gift you can give to yourself and the world. 

Begin by applying self-compassion.  What do I mean by that?  Basically, self-compassion is the courage to connect completely with the parts of yourself you don’t like, or you’ve never wanted to acknowledge.  Those parts you’re so ashamed of that you’ve always kept them hidden.

One by one, I had to face these parts of myself I’d rejected.  Those were the parts I’d held responsible for all the bad things that had happened to me.  They were the parts I thought deserved the abuse.  

I made friends with them, saw them through the eyes of God, and finally brought them back into my core self.  Applying self-compassion and learning how to love these hidden parts taught me what real, unconditional love felt like.  It showed me the difference between healthy love and toxic love.

When I could finally love and accept every part of myself, an amazing thing happened.  I fell in love with who I am, and the person I’ve become.  I no longer need to hide any part of myself.  No part of me is bad.  No part of me is shameful.  No part of me deserves to be abused.

Through this process I discovered I’m a kind, compassionate, caring, loving, supportive, silly (yes, I am!!) human being.  I’m a wonderful work-in-progress.  Still learning, still growing, but loving every step and the unique individual I’m becoming.

Who are you?  Apply self-compassion to those parts of yourself you’ve always kept hidden, and let’s find out!
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