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How Could I Ever Love Myself?

11/9/2015

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Many adult survivors of child abuse continue to neglect themselves in the same way they were neglected.  Why do they do this?  

No matter the abuse, all were emotionally neglected, and this type of abuse is the most damaging.  Abused children are “emotionally abandoned” at the most vulnerable time in their lives.  Because they weren’t loved as they should have been, they grow up feeling unworthy of love as adults.

Well, today is the day to stop neglecting yourself!  The first step is to learn how to love yourself.  To do that, place your hand over your heart, look in a mirror, and say, “I love you.”

Know what this is?  It’s self-care.

Keep saying this to the image of yourself in the mirror until you believe it.  Next, create a daily self-care regime.  Begin by doing something nurturing and kind for yourself.  Eat lunch in the park, take a relaxing bath, call a good friend, read a new novel, work on a favorite craft, or go window shopping.  Do what feels good to YOU.

When I made daily self-care a top priority in my life, I became a better mom, partner, and friend.  Self-care makes you a kinder human being.

When you truly value who you are, you’ll have no problem setting boundaries with the narcissists in your life.  If taking care of yourself first and valuing who you are upsets these people, that just means they’re all about you taking care of them first.  Self-care makes it easier for you to say, “NO.”  Be loving, but firm with them.  

Self-care begins the healing journey to the heart.  It starts with you, a mirror, and your hand over your heart.  If you struggle with this, give me a call.  I’d be happy to guide you through it!

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10 Comments
Anne. L. W. link
11/10/2015 08:36:26 am

This is simple and beautiful and profound, and right where I am - again - Thank you.
Yes it is very difficult for me to love me and do self-care right up top, first on my list. I survived by taking care of others and pleasing others.
Today I re-commit to love my self and focus on my self-care daily.
Thank you, Svava
Anne Wing

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Svava
11/10/2015 09:23:05 am

You are welcome Anne! So glad you are re-committing to taking care of you, and love you first! Awesome! It is a daily -re- commitment. You got this!! I believe in you.

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Jori Nunes
11/10/2015 08:56:37 am

This is very true, I appreciate this special blog reminder. Jori

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Svava
11/10/2015 09:24:18 am

So glad you connected with it Jori! Much Love.

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Ellie
11/10/2015 10:45:58 am

I'm going to try this exercise - I think it will be Helpful!!

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Svava
11/10/2015 11:11:08 am

Awesome Ellie! It works, take a minute and let yourself feel your hand on your heart, the warmth of it, the kind gesture and intention to validate and be there for yourself. You will love it!!

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Cynthia
11/10/2015 06:09:26 pm

I knew emotional abuse was bad but didn't realize it's impact until I read your article. I emotionally neglected my two children who are now adults and I'm trying to make new connections with them but it is very difficult. I, too, was emotionally neglected and unfortunately passed that unto my children. I look forward to the day when I will hopefully have new connections with them.

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Svava
11/10/2015 10:46:12 pm

Cynthia, thank you for sharing. I am so glad you saw this blog post. I know how you feel, I was not the best mom when my oldest was a baby. I did not know how. I learned how to recover and re-parent myself. As a result I became a better mom. It is never too late. Please reach out if you need any support. Kids are resilient and so are we. I believe in you.

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nessa
11/11/2015 12:55:54 pm

I have tried alot of these type of techniques and they havent helped but for a short time. And in fairly good times.
There are to many blocks in the inner child, it just isnt believable.

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Svava
11/11/2015 01:45:42 pm

Hi Nessa, I hear you and I understand. I struggled with it, doing it, believing in it too. It takes time. Our resistance is trying to keep us safe. I hope you find what works for you. You will heal, one block at a time. Sending you love and light.

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