Maybe you were hurt by someone you loved and trusted. Maybe you were hurt by someone who claimed to love you. Since you were only a child at the time you became very confused about love and how normal loving behavior is supposed to look and feel.
I totally understand. The issue of love was a struggle for me, too. I felt terribly broken when I realized I didn’t know how to love myself. Even so, loving myself was the thing I resisted the most, and this is true in the beginning for all my clients.
Why are we like that? It’s because love is a two-fold problem for us. First, we don’t know how to love ourselves, so we believe we are unlovable. Our entire past acts as proof to support this toxic belief. Second, because we don’t know how to love ourselves, we make others responsible for loving us. But that never works, because we don’t know how to accept their love.
Ugh! How frustrating, right?
For many of my clients, I model how to be loving. To love themselves more, I help them learn how to be kind to all the different parts of themselves, especially those they reject or abandon.
To be more loving to others, I help them develop an inner awareness of their energy when they interact with people. Are you automatically defensive, because you’re afraid you’ll be hurt? Or do you remain calm, open, and trusting? To figure this out, don’t retreat to your mind. Slow down and focus on your body. It will let you know if you’re defensive or calm.
For survivors like us, this is hard in the beginning. As abused children, we learned to stay safe by disconnecting from the truth about ourselves and others. But it’s never too late to learn how to love yourself. You can’t heal completely until you do. Best of all, the more you love yourself, the more love you will feel toward others, and the more love you’ll receive.
Wow. It doesn’t get any better than that!
If you’re ready to learn how to truly love yourself, I can help. I’ll walk you through it, model it for you, and show you the steps. Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me. My calendar is filling up fast, so don’t wait. Let me help you heal your life. Reserve your spot NOW!
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