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How to Heal Your Emotional Pain

10/22/2016

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Are you hurting today?  If so, I know how you feel.  I used to carry an unbearably heavy load of emotional pain.  

It’s important for survivors of child abuse and trauma to find a productive way to validate and express emotional pain.  All of it.  You can’t heal completely until you acknowledge how devastating it is to be abandoned, neglected, and ignored as a child.

When I began this validation process, I decided to become an advocate and speaker.  I gave lots of talks about child sexual abuse, my past, and how to keep kids safe from predators.

This was the platform I had chosen to tell my story, and it was an important step in my healing process.  However, I wasn’t aware I was still looking for someone to appear out of nowhere and fix the chaos I felt inside.  Because of that, I had a tendency to overwhelm people with my message.

Even so, that was a very healing time for me, and I learned a lot from the experience.  I felt vindicated by all the people listening to my story.  Especially those who expressed sadness in response to what had happened to me.  I also learned how to take responsibility for the impact of my words.  

I’m incredibly grateful for all the people who heard me speak back then.  They helped me heal.  They listened and validated my pain.  They kept open hearts and showered me with empathy and compassion.    

Your pain will help you heal, too.  Every time you tell your story to a safe friend you’ll learn how to connect with others and yourself.  

Today, when I’m invited to speak I mention the pain from my past, but I focus most of my message on hope, healing, and the love I carry in my heart for myself and others.  

There’s no room for pain in my life anymore.  One day there won’t be room for pain in your life, too.  Keep telling your story, and that day will arrive sooner than you think!
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5 Comments
Alisa
10/25/2016 09:02:49 am

Thank you for your insight and healing words of wisdom. It means so much to me and gives me some understanding of my behavior. Im better but have a long way to go! I go to therapy but does anyone truly understand unless they have been there. Funny knowing others went through what I did somehow helps in a way. Maybe the fact it wasnt my fault just the terrible people who take advantage of kids and who shouldnt have been parents.
Thank you again.

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Svava
10/25/2016 03:36:58 pm

You are welcome Alisa. I am glad you are finding hope in the truth that you are not alone and it was not your fault. Not then, not now, not ever. Keep getting the support you need to slowly restore your beautiful heart. Glad you are here and thank you for your note. Much appreciated. Sending you lots of love.

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peggy
10/25/2016 10:38:51 am

This blog reminds me of the Carly Simon song Haven't Got Time for the Pain (not since I've known you). We have to acknowledge our pain and then move past it. I wanted to move past it without acknowledging it, and found out you can't skip that first step!

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Svava
10/25/2016 03:42:13 pm

I hear you Peggy - You are not alone. I did not want to acknowledge the pain at first either. Sorry friend. The only way out is through but thing is it not anywhere near as painful as we think it is. You get rewarded each time to work thought a layer. You end up feeling lighter, stronger, more sure of yourself. Experiencing your pain and releasing it is you validating yourself. Also, make sure you have a safe place for the process until you feel safe enough to do on your own. Lets of love to you!

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Kristina
10/26/2016 05:17:14 am

I love to hear the need of validation how devastating it is to carry the emotional pain of being abandoned, neglected, and ignored.
Thank you, Svava.
How did you feel the people that listened and validated your story ?
I don´t have thus people. I have people who only want to listen me to their stories. And I don´t get it that they are not safe for me.

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