It’s incredible how insensitive our family can be when we choose to heal. It threatens the toxic world they work hard to maintain, so they say hurtful things to us like:
- Why can’t you just get over it?!
- I don’t think talking about it helps.
- You’re being overly dramatic.
- You’re the only one who remembers it that way.
- Isn’t it time you stopped talking about it and moved on with your life?
- You think too much.
Healing from abuse is a long-term process. Some healing changes happen quickly. But lasting change takes time to sink deep into your heart and create a major shift in your focus. This is the kind of healing change that helps you understand why toxic family members feel threatened by your commitment to your healing journey. Their negative reaction isn’t about you. It’s about them.
Choosing YOU takes courage. When you commit to putting yourself first, it makes toxic family members uncomfortable. Why? Because any time you honor your truth, you’re unknowingly asking them to question their truth.
Some will feel threatened by that. You’re facing what they don’t have the courage to face: inner demons. Others will celebrate and support your commitment. When you choose to heal, you’re choosing YOU. Healing starts the minute you do this. It’s the first step.
The second step is choosing the right support system. Of course, the wrong support system will be those in your family who feel threatened by your decision to change. They have no desire to do that. Change (even the good kind) terrifies them.
Dealing with toxic, unsupportive family members is an excellent opportunity to practice mercy (love in action). These people are critical of your healing journey because they haven’t found their truth yet, and you have. Their negative reaction to you isn’t about you. It’s about them. Always show them mercy, but never allow them to sabotage your healing.
Keep reaching out. Keep telling your story. Keep building a nourishing support system. Keep moving forward on your healing journey. Now you can be what you needed when you were a frightened child. Now you can be there for YOU!!
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