Unfortunately, when it comes to sex, our society tends to sway from one extreme to the other, adding to the confusion. This tendency is especially true in the love relationships of the survivors of child sexual abuse. Some have no desire for sex. Others overdose on it, becoming aggressively sexual. There seems to be no middle ground.
Many of you are struggling in every area of your love relationship. Sexual intimacy is no exception. It can be a HUGE source of frustration, hopelessness, and anger for you and your partner.
Here’s why. You may not realize this, but you’re not the one showing up in the bedroom every night. It’s your wounded child.
As a child, you were introduced to sex long before you knew what it was or had the emotional maturity to handle it. That experience did terrible damage to you in the area of intimacy. All you know is toxic sex. Yikes!
That makes it impossible for you to build a healthy sexual relationship with your partner. You don’t even know where to start.
You can’t correct this on your own. Your wounded child feels responsible for the sexual area of your life. This child is saturated with shame, fear, and pain of all kinds. You’ll have to develop a strategy to gently move this precious child out of the way, so you can show up in the bedroom as an adult. You’ll need professional help to do that.
Just remember, this situation isn’t your fault. You were trained to view sexual intimacy in a toxic way. But you’re no longer a child. You can learn how to build a healthy sex life with the one you love.
Hey, if I can do it, so can you!
If you’d like to talk more about the intimacy issues you’re struggling with, schedule a FREE 30-minute coaching session with me. Sexual intimacy is a difficult issue. But you’re not alone. You’ve got me, and I’m happy to listen. Call me anytime!
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