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The Best Gift You Can Give Your Children

2/6/2017

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Good parenting isn’t easy!  As you can imagine, it was really hard for me in the beginning.  To be honest, I was terrified.  I had no idea what good parenting looked like.  I just knew I wanted my kids to have a healthier, happier, safer childhood than mine.  But I didn’t know how to make that happen.

So I did the best I could.  I wasn’t abusive to them, but I struggled in the emotional areas.  I didn’t know how important it was to be present for them.  Giving a child your total and complete attention is how you demonstrate a child’s worth.  This is the kind of love I had always craved as a child but never received, so I didn’t know how to do this for my kids.

Now I’m making up for lost time.  I want my kids to feel heard.  I do this by demonstrating full body listening and eye contact, while I lovingly hear every word they say to me.

It’s never too late to start.  Begin today.  It doesn’t matter how old your kids are now or where they live.  We all need parents who are connected to their hearts and not afraid to validate our worth by hearing what we have to say.  

This week I told each of my children what I love most about them.  They responded by telling me that I’m their role model.  What they love most about me is all the love coming out of me.  They can actually feel that love energy whenever I’m near.  Even their friends talk about it!  

That makes my heart sing, because I want my kids to see what it feels like to be a wholehearted, loving, compassionate adult.  It’s an honor to be able to demonstrate this for them.

No family is perfect.  But we try to understand each other.  Kindness is a top priority.  No ridiculing or judgment is allowed.  Consequently, we live in a peaceful home.  

This would have made all the difference to me when I was growing up.  You can give the gift of a peaceful home to your children, too.  Start today.  Your kids will thank you!
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4 Comments
Nancy
2/7/2017 12:13:21 pm

Thank-you for this post. I'm going to be more present and loving with my own kids.

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Svava
2/7/2017 12:37:03 pm

You are welcome! Awesome - Proud of you!! Much Love.

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Marj
2/7/2017 08:35:02 pm

This post touched my heart and made me cry today 2/7/17. I've been working so hard to create a loving, safe environment for my children, even though my youngest son is 17. My whole life was full of PTSD and my feelings of inadequacies. Although I was always the only full-time provider for my family of 5 - 4 kids, 1 spouse and subsequently 3 grandchildren, because of childhood issues I never felt enough. It has only been in the past year that I have strived to be the parent that I needed in my 20's. I can't go back to my adult children's childhood, but I know that I had a lot of fear and confusion in my 20's as a parent. I was expected to know by my family, parents and aunts, to know what to do, but I had no clue. I made so many mistakes. I just want my children to know that no matter how old they are, I was not the parent I wanted to be, because I had no clue what that looked like. Thank you for the reaffirmation that I am in alignment with my universe. I'm sure you know what I mean when I say this was exactly the divine intervention that I needed at this exact moment.

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Svava
2/12/2017 03:02:31 pm

Dear Marj, I am so glad this found you when you needed it. I do understand the divine intervention. I can´t tell you how often I hear that and that is what keeps me going in sharing with you all what I have learned on this challenging journey. I hear you sweet lady, and want to honor you for being a good mom. You are here now and you are still going at it. Your tears are your truth of how much you tried, I do hope you felt the Grace you accepted for yourself with letting those fall. Be gentle with yourself, be kind to your heart. I feel you and know why you are here. Sending you lots of love and light.

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