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The BIG Lie That’s Sabotaging Your Life

9/7/2015

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I know how you feel.  You survived child sexual abuse and grew up to be a generous, loving, hardworking person.  You never gave up.  You kept pushing through and became a success against all the odds.

Yet…

Even though you’ve worked really hard on your healing and made tremendous progress, some parts of your life refuse to improve.  For example, your relationships are unsatisfying, and you still attract the wrong kind of people into your life.

Why is that?

Believe it or not, you’re sabotaging yourself in those areas, and I know how it’s happening.  There’s a BIG lie buried deep in your subconscious.  It’s the lie you had to believe as a child in order to survive the abuse.

Even though you’ve worked hard to put the past behind you, you’re still living in the past in those areas of your life.  That’s because you “normalized’ your abusive past in order to survive it.  

You had to.  You were emotionally abandoned, sexually abused, unloved, unappreciated, and unprotected as a child.  You had to make that “okay.”  It was the only way to survive until you were old enough to leave that abusive environment.

This is why you attract narcissists into your life today, people who neglect, abuse, and constantly undervalue you.  Your subconscious thinks that kind of behavior is “normal.”  To fix this, change your idea of normal.  That’s the only way to attract people who appreciate you.

I help my clients accomplish this by digging deep to discover how many of their childhood wounds have been normalized.  Then we create positive affirmations to reeducate the subconscious and teach it the true meaning of normal.  This is a favorite:

“I am valuable and loveable, and everyone in my life treats me with respect and kindness.  I only choose to be with people who want what is best for me.”

That’s a good affirmation, isn’t it?  And it works, too!

If you’d like to talk more about how to dig deep and uncover old wounds from the past that you’ve normalized, schedule a FREE 30-minute coaching session with me.  This isn’t an easy task to tackle alone.  You’ve normalized so much of the abuse it’s hard to recognize what’s NOT normal, you know?  But it’s easy for me to see, because I do this with my clients every day.  I can help you, too.  Call me anytime!

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4 Comments
maggie beckjord
9/8/2015 10:02:57 am

In the last 2 years I had the most incredible doors open up to me. Yet I believed something that was not true. I did the hard work of not compromising myself and I walked away from a partnership. I spent much time letting God comfort me in this loss. Then I pressed in to say Lord, why do I still want to be deceived. It is good to confront my own truth to explore new avenues of relationship. Yes my childhood abuse so poorly trained me to relate rightly with others. I am looking forward to working with Svava to discover things that I am comfortable living with - lies that sabatoge my goals. The lies of childhood have toxic effects and that is just their natural consequence.

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Svava
9/9/2015 12:07:32 pm

Maggie, thank you for sharing - It is a journey that unfolds when we are ready for the truth, your truth. I am looking forward to working with you and to dig deep. You are ready! Much Love!

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syan
9/25/2015 10:11:02 am

Thank you for a great blog post. I had intuited there was a big LIE I was believing...and my inner little girl jumped and suggested rather loudly; "YES, but..." This is when I usually back down, and stop paying attention. I appreciate the wake up call. :)

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Nicola C link
11/23/2020 08:14:35 pm

Thhanks great blog post

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