Of course, that doesn’t mean I’m not still learning and growing. I am. And any change still brings discomfort. But I’m no longer terrified of total disaster.
Would you like to know about the last big hurdle to my healing? It was “love.” Not only did I resist allowing people to love me, but I also resisted being kind and loving to myself. Like many child abuse survivors, I felt I had no value or worth.
Through the use of several healing practices I eventually learned how to love myself. My favorite is to place my hand over my heart. It’s a way of gently reminding myself that I’m loved, and I’m here for myself. It allows my heart to feel warmth from the hand of someone I’ve learned to trust completely. Me.
Placing your hand over your heart validates your existence. It demonstrates in the physical realm that you’re giving yourself the love and kindness you needed but never received as an abused child.
This simple practice is also quite scientific. It activates your body’s “happiness” hormone (Oxytocin). This is the hormone responsible for evoking feelings of contentment, calmness, and security. It reduces stress and anxiety by increasing trust and empathy. It’s also an anti-inflammatory hormone that speeds wound healing.
Now you know why at some point every day you’ll find me with my right hand on my heart. I’m taking a few moments to feel its loving warmth, notice my breath, express gratitude to my body, and whisper assurance to my inner child.
Love is the key to your healing, too. I know it is, because I’ve been there. So give this a try. Feel the warmth and love you can give to yourself with this simple practice. It works!
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