Which Story Are You Telling?

Child abuse survivors don’t have just one story.  We have three.  

The first story is the one that takes the most courage to tell.  It’s the one about what happened to us.  It’s a story of trauma, abuse, and victimization.  We all have to start there.  This is your “Trauma Story.”  It’s important to realize this is actually a story about the abuser, the person who hurt you and betrayed your innocence, heart, and trust.

You can’t move forward with your healing until you acknowledge the impact of this traumatic experience.  And that includes allowing yourself to feel the emotional pain.  Telling this story is part of that.  

The second story we tell is our “Healing Story.”  It charts our path of survival.  This is a story about how we chose to rise above the abuse, trauma, shame, and betrayal of our dark past.  How we chose to claim our truth and lovingly care for ourselves.  How we chose to be safe in our bodies and set healthy personal boundaries with other people.  And how we chose to rescue, soothe, and validate ourselves.

If you’re not sure which story you’re telling, ask yourself these questions:

• Do I fear being alone?
  
• Do I need others to make me feel safe?
  
• Do I often feel sad, depressed, or guilty?
  
• Do I get angry with myself and others?
  

A survivor of child abuse is a work-in-progress.  The learning never stops.  If you answered “Yes” to any of these questions, you’re telling your “Healing Story.”  You’re in the process of solving your major issues.  You’re taking responsibility for the things you can change, and you’re learning how to let go of the things you can’t change.  

Next, how would you answer these questions?

• Do I trust my feelings?
  
• Do I feel loveable and worthy of support?
  
• Do I feel safe?
  
  

When you can answer “No” to the first set of questions and “Yes” to the second set, you’ve begun to tell your “Survivor to Thriver Story.”  You’re living your authentic self every day.  You’re writing your hero’s journey.  You’re intentionally creating the happy, healthy, joyous life of your dreams.  Wow, right?!

So think about it.  Which story are you telling today?
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