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Why Aren’t You Asking for the Support You Need?

11/15/2015

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Many of you feel alone, disconnected, and misunderstood.  You think no one cares or wants to support you.  How do I know?  Because this is what I hear from almost every new coaching client who comes to me.

True, there may not be any compassionate, supportive people in your life.  But you and I both know you probably aren’t asking for support either.

How is that possible?  How can you desperately need support and not ask for it?

Easy.  As a survivor of child sexual abuse, you don’t know what you “need.”  Before you can ask for support, you have to know what you need, right?  In order to do that, you must not only be aware of your feelings but also comfortable expressing them.  Not an easy task for a trauma survivor like you.  The brain tends to disconnect from the body during trauma.  

Here’s some good news.  You can manually override this brain response.  You do that by admitting this is a new skill for you.  It’s going to take practice, so you give yourself permission to go slowly.  You take baby steps.  You’re compassionate with yourself during this learning process.  

For those of you who are ready to ask for support, you’re going to love my new, online, biweekly support group!  

The members of my group are survivors just like you.  Compassionate, supportive, good people.  We meet every two weeks and address a specific topic in each meeting.  Then the floor is opened to the members.  Pre-registration is required, and there’s a $25 fee for each meeting.

When you’re ready, come join us online.  Survivors are stronger together.  They truly are.  You’ll see!

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Would you like to learn how to ask for support?  Are you having trouble identifying your needs?  Follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one hour coaching session with me.  My calendar is filling up fast, so don’t wait.  Let me help you heal your life.  Reserve your spot NOW!

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6 Comments
Beverly link
11/17/2015 10:36:42 am

I can remember how difficult "Asking For Support" was for me. It truly is a skill that I have learned and cultivated. I let things get so bad for me before I asked for help because I thought I had to figure it out alone. So many limiting beliefs came up for around making that initially step for support. Did I really want to get better? Was I weak, wrong or bad because I needed help? There is something seriously wrong with me. There was all kinds of thoughts and feelings that stood in the way of me allowing myself support. It's been many years, but I still ask for help. In fact, I have my first EMDR session this coming Friday. I was feeling the need to do some more work and went with my intuition and am now getting some more support. It's a continuous process. Thanks for your positive messages Svava! I enjoy getting them each week!

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Svava
11/17/2015 09:12:14 pm

That is awesome Beverly! These are exactly the thoughts and feelings that get in the way. Pushing through and asking for support anyway is a big victory. You are going to love EMDR! You are welcome! hugs.

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wanda
11/17/2015 11:11:03 am

how do I join the support group

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Svava
11/17/2015 09:09:57 pm

Hi Wanda, I just sent you the link to the group. Hope to see you tomorrow - online at 5pm. #StrongerTogether

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Deb link
11/19/2015 04:25:53 am

I am not a sexual abuse survivor. My mother is, and I imagine her mother was, too. However, I have many friends who are survivors of one kind of abuse or another. And as a therapist myself, I work with many sexual abuse survivors. I'm receiving your mailings because I'm always looking for ways to be more sensitive to and effective with my own, and others' recovery processes.

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Svava
11/21/2015 06:18:48 am

I am glad you are here and that my work is helping you to help more survivors. Thank you for all that you do.

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