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Why Can’t I Heal?

7/10/2017

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This is a question I asked myself for a long time.  So many people could diagnose me.  So many people could tell me what was wrong with me.  But few could actually help me heal.  

Why?  Because my healing wasn’t the task of these other people.  It was my job.  I had to take all the information I had gathered about recovering from child abuse and trauma and move that knowledge from my head to my heart.  In other words, I had to do the tough, messy work of applying it to my own life.  

Today, I’m going to make this task easier for you.  Here are the seven steps child abuse and trauma survivors need to take in order to heal.  Apply them every day.

  1. Establish Safety.  Figure out what makes you feel safe.  This is your first priority.
  2. Develop Courage.  Eventually, your willingness to heal will develop into courage, as you take more and more healthy risks.
  3. Create a Mindfulness Practice.  Connecting with your body is essential for healing.  As abused children, we learned the toxic skill of disconnection.  Mindfulness will help you reconnect.
  4. Express Your Emotions.  Learn how to identify, listen to, feel, and express your emotions in a healthy way.  All of them: the good, the bad, and the ugly!
  5. Change Your Negative Beliefs.  You created these toxic beliefs as a way to survive an abusive childhood.  But you’re an adult now.  Change your story (beliefs) to what benefits your adult life.
  6. Practice Self-Care, Self-Love, and Self-Compassion.  Put yourself first on your To-Do list.  Every day find a way to lovingly care for and celebrate yourself.
  7. Build a Support System.  You can’t do this alone.  Healing doesn’t work that way.  Surround yourself with nourishing friends who support your healing goals.

Just the act of implementing these seven steps is a major move forward on your healing journey.  Stick with it, and you’ll experience a positive shift sooner than you think.  Why?  Because these steps are more than a decision.  They’re a lifestyle change.  

And that’s how you heal.  Finally!

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If you’re having trouble with any of these steps, I can help!  Just follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a one-hour coaching session with me ($100 per hour).  Let me help you heal your life.  Reserve your spot TODAY!

Have you read my bestselling book, “Journey to the Heart”?  If you’re ready to heal from the effects of abuse or trauma (depression, anxiety, PTSD, allergies, chronic pain, etc.), this book is for YOU!!  You’ll find it at Amazon in paperback (link) or Kindle (link).  Enjoy and happy reading!

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5 Comments
Lily
7/11/2017 06:41:49 am

Another wonderful, helpful, healing post! Thank you! I didn't create negative beliefs about myself - I was taught them by my abusers and the suffering adults around me. Children need accurate mirroring to develop accurate beliefs about themselves.

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Doug
7/11/2017 01:43:25 pm

Excellent information to guide anyone on their inner work and healing process. Wish I'd seen this information organized into a list many years ago. Very Helpful for anyone in the early stages of the healing journey

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Svava
7/11/2017 09:58:06 pm

I hear you Doug. So much of this would have been helpful for me too all those years ago. The good news is that more of us are putting this together and people are finding more helpful tools and guidance than before. Feel free to share with anyone that you think might benefit from it. Thanks for your note.

Svava
7/11/2017 09:54:03 pm

Hi Lily, Glad you found this helpful. You got it - children take on the behaviors they see around them growing up.

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Rich link
1/10/2021 01:14:11 am

Great blog I enjoyed readiing

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